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Thank you for sharing, I am 56 years old and started loving muscle women in puberty, so I have thought about this issue for over four decades.
When I have tried to describe this desire to people, and myself, I say that I like the idea of a confident woman who can be in control of me sexually. I don't like to be dominated, but I do like the idea that a woman COULD dominate me, and I say that is a mental and emotional release for me. For once, I don't have to be in control, someone else could occasionally be in control, and that is stimulating to me. And I think that is a small part of it.
However, I always come back to the fact that I was obsessed with muscular women from the first time I saw one (in Sports Illustrated). This was before I had any real world sexual experience at all, I didn't know what it was like to dominate, be dominated, etc., I didn't even know what it was like to talk to a girl yet.
So, in the end, I have always concluded I was born this way. Maybe there could have some different confluence of events in my childhood that would have triggered a different set of likes and dislikes, I don't rule that out. But if I am being honest, I do really think I was simply born this way.
That is a boring answer, but that is what I believe about myself.
I'm a transgender woman who is pansexual.
I eventually developed a sexual attraction to muscular females bc they represent to me a lot of psychological characteristics that I lack and that I would really love and with to one day have. And eventually as I grew older (I was born in 2004) and eventually realized myself as a trans woman everything just clicked to me: I feel sexually attracted to woman that I want to be like one day and be surrounded by.
I'll always think that a muscular woman has twice the much parts you can worship
Biceps, triceps, abs, back, calves, lats
You can't do that with 99% of regular women. That makes it for me
I think it's the most natural thing to prefer fit women. Because fit or muscular women just look better. I think most guys would prefer a woman that is at least slightly fit these days, even guys that prefer feminity over anything else. Otherwise it's just skin and bones. Even a slight amount of muscle improves their posture, contributes to a classic hourglass shape, makes their butts bigger, and makes their boobs sit higher. Plus fit women have more energy, are more adventurous, can last longer in bed, and seem to be more successful in their careers, which is hot but also means they wouldn't be an income drain if you dated them. Some guys have fetishes that go beyond merely fit women into some more niche territory, but the idea that skinny women who starve themselves is the standard has been dead for years now. And very few guys prefer fat women.
OP, I think you're on the right track. This is something I've thought about for a long time, and that's basically the realization I made.
When I see a fit woman (not necessarily hugely muscular, but fit in comparison to most people), I see somebody with drive and dedication, who sticks to their goals, who pushes themselves to the limit, and continues to do so, day in and day out, for months or years on end. I see somebody who's independent and capable, can handle their own shit (although we know from various stories on here that this may or may not be the case; physical prowess doesn't always correlate with having it together mentally). Their lines demand respect, because they've earned it through their hard work.
(The same, to be sure, can be said for fit men, and while I find fit men aesthetically pleasing as well, I'm not attracted to them, but that's old-fashioned biology, and it's why I know that attraction to fit women has nothing to do with being straight or gay.)
I'd go as far as to say that attraction to fit/muscular women may be the least shallow of the physical attractiveness standards, because being fit tells you something about that person's character, drive, and abilities. You can't say the same for big boobs, blonde hair, bright sparkling eyes, high cheekbones and a delicate nose, or any of the other more typical societally-accepted physical attractiveness standards. Those are, indeed skin deep (or not much more than that), largely controlled by genetics (and if not genetic, it's usually cosmetic products or plastic surgery, and tell you little about the person's underlying character or ambition.
I’ll be honest I really prefer big muscular females bodybuilders, particularly bodybuilding level. They will loom over me, and won’t ever cheat.
I have recently discovered, or more honestly admitted to myself that I find anyone with an impressive shredded midsection sexy. I’ve always had an abs fetish because I visually find it so impressive and fantasise about rubbing them. I can find a Trans person with abs sexy, or even a Male but they have to be smooth skinned with lack of any hair on their torso! I can enjoy for example a women rubbing a males smooth abs in a porn scene, or a Trans model on chaturbate with impressive abs. So I’ve come to the conclusion that for me it’s all aesthetics and anyone who has washboard abs gets my admiration.
I'll always think that a muscular woman has twice the much parts you can worship
Biceps, triceps, abs, back, calves, lats
You can't do that with 99% of regular women. That makes it for me
im pretty close to this id say. women these days are gauged by the size of the ass or their boobs.... there is so much more to enjoy if you open your eyes. I'd just call us woke LOL
Probably a blend of childhood trauma at seeing my mother physically abused, and incapable of protecting me, and a basic, chromosomal capacity to see through society's BS and begin my own drive towards excellence of breeding stock - taller, bigger, faster, stronger always being better, AABE, than shorter, slower etc.
That has certainly been refined over the years, I've veered away from pocket-rocket girls who were as cute as pink unicorns who stole my heart when I was a teen, and later veered away from plastic parts, as well as now being able to retrospectively reject women who either then, or eventually displayed deviant behaviour, ie drug addiction, LBT. I look back on all those errors as youthful folly, and in a certain self-sympathising light.
For me the next frontier is to unpack the mental side - Girls With Massive IQ's. To determine when hyper-competence in life, stems from earlier childhood trauma similar to mine, with all the chances of a later backlash, or to raw, innate ability.
For me it’s more the strength than the muscle itself.
You have a woman like Emily Brand. Tiny little thing, very pretty, ripped to shreds, every single muscle is incredibly defined and hard, and her biceps are especially big on her small frame. Emily is very beautiful and I can watch her flexing, but I quickly grow tired of it.
You also have a woman like Kortney Olsen. She’s bigger framed to begin with, less ripped, but it’s the power she has which is attractive. It’s the strength that I like. KO flexes a bicep and its not super ripped or anything, but the muscle itself is massive, and I would rather watch KO crushing a watermelon with her arms than watch Emily Brand flexing her biceps.
The videos of KO, of Sheena, of the overhead lifts and the arm wrestling, of the strength feats. I also really like “strong fat” over ripped. Some of the strong fat biceps are 20” plus. I’m a big fan of women who are physically very strong.
Psychologically, I don’t think my desires are particularly uncommon. I think those kind of women are uncommon, absolutely, but I don’t think finding a strong, muscular woman extremely desirable is a niche thing at all, in fact I’d say it’s quite common.
A woman with a noticeably muscular body goes anywhere and she more often than not gets flooded with requests to arm wrestle. A strong woman at the gym, who’s lifting heavy weights, will invariably have all of the attention. Quite often, once she has finished a set, you’ll see men put the weights she was just using back on the bar, not to challenge her, but more to satisfy a curiosity.
It’s attractive. It’s really attractive, a strong woman.
For me it's simple strong women are just better at most things. sexually I only heard positive things. And being strong is just handy in general. some very big fbbs suffer from steriod side effects. but overall the only problem is that stronger women are rare and most women also want strong men. and since there are more strong men it becomes too hard for most men to find a girlfriend who is stronger than him and is prefers him over stronger men. so I think this is why most men are not into female muscle it's simply too rare. I also like some bdsm because I like to feel the power of a woman
It's in my blood. For all of history, my ancestors would have been hard-working people. I should be married to a big strong woman capable of doing all the chores on a farm or something, all the manual labor people had to do up until the not too distant past. I see a muscular woman and my brain says there's a lady who can help with the chores, marry her.
I don't know about any of this, I just know that for as long as I can remember I have been extremely attracted to muscular women, the bigger the better. I understand and appreciate the work, the determination, the commitment etc (and at 46 are in the middle of putting on as much muscle as I can myself) but for me it's a very physical attraction to female muscle
I love women and I want them to be as capable as they can be. That requires strength. And strength requires muscle. It makes me feel awful knowing that women are pressured into being skinny and weak for whatever reason, which makes me want them to be strong even more.
I don't analyse it too much to be honest, and simply go with the old adage of 'there's no accounting for taste'. All I know is that I saw Rachel McLish on Sportsworld (Australia) when I was about 12 and it blew my tiny little mind. I know a lot of people don;t get it, but I think we're moving way beyond the traditional societal norms of what a woman 'should' look like in order to be considered 'feminine'.
Thank you for sharing, I am 56 years old and started loving muscle women in puberty, so I have thought about this issue for over four decades.
When I have tried to describe this desire to people, and myself, I say that I like the idea of a confident woman who can be in control of me sexually. I don't like to be dominated, but I do like the idea that a woman COULD dominate me, and I say that is a mental and emotional release for me. For once, I don't have to be in control, someone else could occasionally be in control, and that is stimulating to me. And I think that is a small part of it.
However, I always come back to the fact that I was obsessed with muscular women from the first time I saw one (in Sports Illustrated). This was before I had any real world sexual experience at all, I didn't know what it was like to dominate, be dominated, etc., I didn't even know what it was like to talk to a girl yet.
So, in the end, I have always concluded I was born this way. Maybe there could have some different confluence of events in my childhood that would have triggered a different set of likes and dislikes, I don't rule that out. But if I am being honest, I do really think I was simply born this way.
That is a boring answer, but that is what I believe about myself.
I’m 56 as well and I liked muscular and athletic girls as far back as I can remember, grade school. Back then it wasn’t sexual attraction just admiring. But as I went through puberty it was the only thing that would turn me on. All my girlfriends were athletic or played sports. Eventually met my wife, took her to prom and we’re still together. She’s 55 and still is a smoke show, nice calves, back and biceps. We both still workout.
For me I felt it was simple: the muscular curves are so aesthetically pleasing. I was introduced to fit women and female bodybuilders from a episode of the Martin Show at age 7 or 8 while watching with my mom (born in 2004)
Ever since then, I couldn’t help but glue my eyes to any girl or women with above average muscularity or abs. Now as I grow up, it’s still because it’s visually aesthetic, but thinking into a relationship, being in shape and taking care of your body at a young age will do wonders when you’re older. Such as an increase of quality of life, internal body failures are slowed down because of it. And also like everyone said, any intimate moment with a girl that is above average in muscularity or fitness genuinely changes the game on intimate moments
So I think for me, visual aesthetics, longevity with partner, the physical attraction
To be honest, I have no idea why, all I can do is remember the how. It happened at a time when I was becoming sexually aware, so maybe that's all it is, I got struck at the perfect moment...
One evening in my early teens I saw Carolyn Cheshire on British TV. She was on a show called Bodymatters. Each week the show focused on one aspect of the human body. That week it was the muscles. To help one of the presenters demonstrate how muscles expand and contract with the movements of the body, Carolyn was brought out. Tanned, defined and wearing only a skimpy posing costume, Carolyn came down some stairs through the audience, and started to pose as the presenter pointed out the muscles on her body.
It is impossible to fully describe the effect her body had on me. It was, most definitely, a sexual reaction. I was amazingly turned on, more than I had ever been. But though that reaction was partly due to the sheer beauty of her body, a physical attraction, there was so much more than that. I reacted to the sheer confidence, the pride that Carolyn had in her body, and her obvious delight at showing it off in public. There was no self-consciousness or shyness. That turned me on even more.
It seems to me, many years later, that that moment defined my sexuality forever. I have been a slave to female muscle ever since.
I know there's another thread but that one talks about the general reason. Here its more about the self diagnosed reason you think makes you like them.
I'll go first. I don't like muscular woman for the sake of muscles or muscularity. It signals something more than mere muscles to me. It shows me power that is earned not given. You know those muscle growth stuff thats prevalent in this community's fiction? I absolutely despise that. If I know she just grew muscles one night because of a mystery drug then I hate it.
Once I know its earned, I love the fact that it signals some sense of strength or control to me. (earned control) thus I absolutely hate bdsm stuff where you are roleplaying control. and I haven't figured out why I like a woman having naturally acquired control over me. I can't seem to diagnose out of my childhood. All of the female figures I grew up with in my life that I can remember were very feminine and traditional. My father has the opposite taste of what I do. I can't seem to pinpoint the exact culprit.
I do remember when I was like 4ish I saw my cousin watching the scene with Jean Grey in Xmen the Last Stand and I saw the scene with Jean Grey flying in the air and destroying everything unleashing the power of Pheonix. I saw alot of films growing up but this scene stuck with me. To this day I haven't seen any Xmen stuff. But for some reason I distinctly remembered that scene after all those years. And I think that must have contributed to my sense of liking powerful women.
I'm gonna be honest I don't even like muscular woman lol. A skinny but impressive athlete (for some physical metric) is miles hotter than a huge roided fbb that can't lift much. Its all about what that muscle signifies. So a unimpressive looking yet strong woman is hotter than a muscles for show girl. Ykwim. And its not limited to physical strength. It could be any other medium but its far easier for me to find believable stuff on physical strength so thats probably why I am here in this community.
I have tried to see if maybe I am gay but that theory has fallen flat. I am definitely not.
Its crazy one small movie scene stuck with me for so long. What is your self diagnosed reason for liking muscle women?
Before you come in with let people like what they like. Thats not the point of the discussion so stay out of this thread.