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For me, it’s more aesthetic than psychological. I just think a fit, well-sculpted body looks better than one that isn’t, whether it’s a man or a woman. However, as a straight guy, I’m just naturally more focused on the fit women. Unlike a lot of guys on this site, I generally prefer the leaner, more aesthetic look than the mass monsters, though I do appreciate all the discipline and hard work that goes into creating any type of muscular physique.
An interesting question and one I’ve often pondered. From very young, way before any sexual thoughts entered my head, I was drawn to strong girls and women. I didn’t really question it or think too deeply about it back then. I suffered childhood trauma, not as bad as some people, but I grew up in a home afraid to speak for fear of being shouted at or punished. I have no doubt that has had some influence on looking for strong women, don’t ask me how.
As a teenager, seeing the athletic women in class in gym outfits made my heart beat 100 miles an hour, my eyes nearly popping out of my head. I remember seeing a picture of Corey Everson which I was in awe of. When I first found her biceps I didn’t leave the house for a week 😀
Now, I’m drawn to fit but feminine women. I am very fit myself and am hugely passionate about fitness and training. So beyond any deep psychological reason, I think I just like others who share the same values and lifestyle choices.
Easy. Strength and femininity combined are sexy to me. Fitness, figure, and wellness women appeal to me for the intensity they train with and the desire to get bigger, faster, and stronger, at all costs. The pretty face, veins, and big muscles pumping when training is an instant turn on.
Nuanced and unusual power dynamics.
I like how in spite of the fact that they are fitter and stronger than the average man, they are still playing up to the patriarchy by objectifying themselves and wanting us to desire their bodies. It is extra hot somehow for a fitness model who is much stronger physically than us to still be wearing skimpy bikinis and stilettos and wearing makeup and posing to look sexy for male enjoyment.
Their extra muscle and fitness (and height, sometimes) should be empowering, but it is paradoxically demeaning because it is just another thing that men fetishize and enjoy sexually. The fact that they could easily overpower men, but still let themselves be demeaned and objectified like this is super hot.
Bonus points if the man is particularly weak, old, unfit, short, etc. I like the contrast.
Here is an AI depiction of the kind of stuff I like; physical contrast, strong, fit but objectified musclegirl.
It raises questions of 'power.' A luxury pickup truck is a 'powerful' and beautiful vehicle, but it doesn't actually wield that power as it exists to be used and enjoyed by men who are physically less 'powerful' but in reality the real 'owners' and 'wielders' of the power. I feel similarly about musclegirls; they do have physical power, but it is more for the enjoyment of men who are attracted to and would like to 'own' fit women.
I can entirely sympathise and empathise with the extreme desire to own, and GIVE, power. In a deeply loving union, her strength should be YOURS to wield, to enjoy. She should be your 22yr old soldier, your one-woman commando, as ready to destroy a bar full of bikers or infiltrate an Iranian nuclear base, as she is to strip to her bikini and enthrall the throng at a Rio beach, at YOUR command. She should enthusiastically and warmly accept the instruction, unless it's to commit Murder, WHATEVER else it is.
As a bodybuilder myself who has - and there's no way to express this without seeming boastful - had girlfriends slobber over my muscles, I GAVE them with equal cheerfulness. They were and are my gift to womankind. A reward for having made a good choice. Those chest hairs, bulging chest/arms etc theirs to enjoy, and those same bodyparts stood as ready to defend her as they did to arouse her, as they did to serve her.
I honestly don't see women/muscles/beauty as 'objects', not in the inanimate sense (anything can be the object of anything else, like the object of my affections), but as wealth. The fruits, or rather meats, of hard work savvily gathering and smartly blending the scarce resources of time/genetics/effort/savvy. To be enjoyed, indulged, delighted in.
Because that's what a healthy human does. :)
In a deeply loving union, her strength should be YOURS to wield, to enjoy. She should be your 22yr old soldier, your one-woman commando, as ready to destroy a bar full of bikers or infiltrate an Iranian nuclear base, as she is to strip to her bikini and enthrall the throng at a Rio beach, at YOUR command.
Bro I'mma to tell you this from a loving place because I want to help a brother out... you need to bring in a ghostwriter to help you write your wedding vows.
You've made a great start here, but there is still some work required.
Personally speaking, I've preferred/been attracted to non-traditional gender roles over the traditional ones for as long as I can remember. Altough I've liked girls that fit (never better said hehe) into the traditional gender roles before, I still find the non-traditional ones much more attractive and even hotter (sometimes traditional gender roles can be a turn off when compared to non-traditional ones for me). Furthermore, I have a thing for women who are amorous and loving and yet dominant and prefer to take the lead and "be in charge". Thus, having the mix of liking non-traditional gender roles in women and liking those who are much more dominant and stronger than me (both physically and in their personallities) makes me prefer muscular women and find them much more attractive and sexy AF. My preference for non-traditional gender roles also include tomboy and geek women and others who do not represent the "traditional image" of what the society would expect of a woman; in the particular case of muscular women, it is because most of the times society would say things like: "women are ment to be feminine and growing muscle is manly", "women should not lift; if they do, they shouldn't lift that much weight so they won't look like men" and ideas like that, ideas I obviously do not share. All of this is on the psychological side, besides the phsyical attraction itself, since I find developed muscles attractive and sexy AF.
I've thought about this topic for some years and talked about it with a very select number of people, and I guess the main reason for me is: defiance.
It's much harder for a cisgender woman to put a huge pack of muscle than a man, it takes years of absolute discipline, diet and training for them to reach some serious gains. Of course there are the genetically gifted ones and many of them juice up, but my point stands. They HAVE to commit themselves in order to achieve that potential. And most societies don't expect that from women. Hard manual labor, fighting, lifting, those are activities historically attributed to men due to their predisposition, men are expected be the strongest ones physically and emotionally to protect women and kids. So when a girl challenges this concept, grows and achieves greatness in enviroments that make it twice as hard for them and stand toe to toe with the best of men, it's just beautiful. Female athletes, fighters, warriors, bodybuilders, and other professionals that dedicate their lives to activities that depend on physical strength and endurance, I respect the hell out of them.
Muscles are pretty aesthetic by themselves ngl, but it only truly excites me when I know it comes from a woman. They represent independence, strength of will, empowerement. When you look at a beautiful girl with built abs, biceps and quads, you know she chose a difficult path, but she still embraces her womanhood. They coexist. And I guess that does it for me.
When I was in 7th grade (12-13 yo) my public school district had one school for all the kids from 7th to 12 grade. I was just hitting puberty and getting obsessed with sex while roaming the school halls with gorgeous 17-18 yo girls. This was the mid seventies and a lot of the girls wore skirts and heels. I became really attracted to defined legs and calves in heels. I also ran track and was kind of a prodigy. I was training and hanging out with some amazing much older girl runners in super tight shorts and tank tops. I fell deeply in lust with women with fit bodies, tight butts and defined, toned legs especially. The die was cast.
When I was 14 I had a crush on a girl from school with nice flat abs (wouldn't say they were ripped, just slightly toned from sports).
I would always check other girls abs to see how they compared to hers.
Then I started seeing some girls with abs that were even more toned/ripped, and I was super impressed.
It was a matter of time until I was looking at photos of female bodybuilders - at first just admiring their abs, but then the rest of their muscles as well.
Crazy thing is, that girl from school now does crossfit and has developed a pretty solid physique in her mid 30s.
An interesting question...
My mom was a famous tennis player back in the thirties and forties -- yes, she won the U.S. Open, both singles and doubles.
She was the athlete in the family. (My dad was overweight, a weekend golfer and fisherman, but no athlete...)
Though I never witnessed this, my mom supposedly could walk on her hands when she was a girl.
My mom and half-sister were the dominant forces in the household -- dad was more of a peacekeeper. The two women were more critical of me and my habits; dad generally left me to my own devices.
I once wrestled an older male cousin when I was seven or eight, and I found it very exciting when he had me pinned and helpless.
Later, when I realized I was attracted to muscular women (dancers, gymnasts, and aerial artists being the prime examples back in the sixties and seventies), that same excitement about their overpowering me was palpable as well.
But I was also attracted to slim women with really large, natural breasts. In third grade I had a dream about Jayne Mansfield taking a bath that rocked my world, and I was amazed at Anita Ekberg in La Dolce Vita.
Given that I was most attracted to muscular women's biceps, I wondered if I was attracted to "bulges" on women, whether biceps representing strength or big boobs signifying nurturing and comfort.
Both of those bulges could also have been stand-ins for male erections, representing arousal. (I later would be turned on by the giant clits FBB's sported!)
I was in therapy for many years trying to overcome my shyness around women, and when I asked my shrink why I was so attracted to big boobs (I don't remember if I discussed muscular women with him as well), he only replied, "What comes to mind?"
So these are the thoughts that come to my mind today, as someone in my seventies. I hope future generations become more at ease with strong women, causing less embarrassment among those of us who admire them...
Well for me it's definitely psychological... When I was kid I used to climb on the legs of the girlfriend of my uncle at that time, and she would once me up and down on one of her legs, and her frame is like almost chubby, but with thick legs. Thinking back on that a few years later I found out I'm into them legzzz (thicker / bigger the better)..
Then when I was 9, my neighbor who was also 9 was at my house on Christmas, we were in my room, and with a few other friends of mine were roughhousing.. My neighbor, average 9 year old size I think, compared to my skinny s, grabbed me from behind and did a back suplex... And ffom that moment on, my world changed on how I see women... It's turned me on completely. So when we played together after that day onwards, I always jumped on her back to give that lift and carry "adrenaline rush" y'all kno were.
In her teens her breast got bigger, so I jumped and grab those bazookas (which y'all kno, Feats of strength and grabbing is instant turn on)
So in my mind, what was going on.. Is like we were learned as a kid, that men are the superior kind... Until that day when she back suplexed me and then piggyback my s. I looked at every women, that if she can do it every other girl / women can... Like my mind was, "a girl with more strength than a guy? It's not supposed to be like that"...
So I find women with strength very much attractive and sexy, and some women doesn't even know their hidden ability.. Because you can have a 40kg girl small (non fit girl) pick a 80kg guy up like nothing, and then you have a (strong) fat girl pick a 90kg guy.. In which you have guys weighing 75kg cant even pick up 60 kg girls. So to me that's hot when a supposedly "small" girl picks up guys 3x times their weight...
Now imagine a girl who lifts.. It's out of the ballpark sensation .. Those muscles; big biceps, big quads and hammies .. Those lift and carry that they can do without dropping a sweat.
And nowadays you get 20 year olds lifting 50 year old men (again with that mind going, how can a "little" girl lift a "grown man")..
For me you can be fit, strong fat, bodybuilder, skinny, even fat, smaller or taller then me, all of those will be trigger something psychologically... It's the strength that gets me going, and for girls taller then me.. It's like indeed and "Amazon" level thought... They will surely pick u up like u weigh midget size
So Yup, call it psychological or even fetish... but I knos it's a very perfect one I might say.. And we are not alone on that, so I salute you guys 🫡
For me it started out around 8 years old. I was drawn girls that played sports. And we and they matured I realized it was not the girls playing sports, it was the result. They had fit curvy bodies which got fitter and curvier as we grew. So I love women with muscular feminine bodies. As I have gotten older (much older) I prefer thick muscular women, but naturally muscular. There is nothing like feeling a sexy woman’s body with soft skin and hard muscle.
I very much was blown away when I was watching wrestling in early 2000. I saw Chyna in the WWF and Asya in WCW. I couldn't believe how huge these females were and actively beating men, out muscling and over powering them. I was 12 and in the sixth grade and safe to say I was hooked with my new preferred type of woman
Muscular women tend to wear less clothing to show off their muscular bodies. I think this is what caught my eye at first, whether it was wrestling, American Gladiators or some workout show on ESPN. It was easier for me to see bikini babes that happened to be muscular than not. I guess it kinda grew from there. I like Carmen Elektra and Pamela Anderson too, but even in Baywatch, they wore relatively modest one pieces. I don't think it's much more deep than that.
Particularly the lat spreads, there big lats really turn me on and shows how wide they get. A lot of men go for glutes but I like the width of there lats