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I’ve got a general question, have you guys ever told someone that you are into muscular girls? How did you tell them and how did they respond? And if you haven’t told anyone, why? I’m on the verge of telling my best friend that I love muscular girls and I almost said it twice, but every time I almost tell him I have this feeling that I can’t trust him. Even though he’s my best friend.
I told my ex-girlfriend, as well as my current girlfriend. They both reacted the same: “is that what all the fuss was about?”. My ex did have some difficulties with my muscle fetish at first, but after a lot of talking and explaining she understood and accepted it. My current girlfriend is completely fine with it and is just really happy that I’m open and honest with her.
Now I do have to say that the female muscle fetish is by far not my only fetish and it is something that’s just for me. I’ve never actively looked for a muscular girlfriend or a muscular sex partner. So in my opinion my “coming out” wasn’t all that hard. I’ve since then also told some friends and roommates. Most of them were really interested and started asking questions because they were kind of intrigued since they never heard of it.
After telling more and more people I started to feel some kind of relief and also acceptance. Acceptance from others but from myself as well. That being said, I truly recommend to tell someone about your inner feelings. It’s only human, after all :)
Being of the immensely OLDER generation, I hid my love for muscular women for many years. I had even been with a couple of girls with muscular arms and still hid my attraction. They wondered why I kept touching and feeling their arms. Eventually, I was on a blind phone date with a woman. During our phone conversation, she told me that she had previously worked at the airport loading luggage. She went on to say, she got comments about her arms all the time. Bingo!!! She opened the door and I ran through. I told her how attractive athletic or muscular women were to me. Our first date was at the movies. It was chilly, so she had on a long sleeved sweater...no chance to see her arms. Before the movie started however, she offered up her arm for me to feel and she flexed. Through the fabric I could feel a nice hard lump!!! I think I even let out a little moan as I squeezed it. We'll, she quizzed me? Nice, very nice, I told her. We'll, she smiled, I'm right handed, that's my left arm. You'll have to go on another date to feel my bigger arm. We wound up getting engaged a few months later. Female muscle is so captivating to me. She had me as soon as she flexed. She joined the same gym and really started building her arms. I was honest about my lust for female muscle, otherwise that was an opportunity that never would have grown into daily muscle worship for me. She absolutely loved what her muscles did to me!!! She rarely got a second look from guys before but because of her muscular arms, I made her feel sexy and gorgeous!
I love women of all shapes and sizes muscular woman have a power over people and it's the physical form that attracts you. The Amazon women were brave and strong and they are legendary for centuries people fascinated by them.
I think nobody advertises what their type is to their friends or anyone else.
judging by this thread alone, you may have to revise that assumption.
it is weird running around telling people Hi, I'm so and so, and I'm into muscular women!
there is a wide context in which musclegirls can be introduced in conversation, to the point that it never has to be sexualised. "i think buff women are incredible! i'm a fan such and such a female olympian / kayfabe wrestler / martial artist / fictional heroine / historical figure -"
people are social creatures almost by definition. we will talk about what we like and dislike, particularly with those we consider to be more significant to us. so it's not as if OP is literally 'running around' screaming at the top of his lungs from one street corner to the next about his enthusiasm for musclegirls; from my viewpoint it just seems he simply wants to confess an interest to what's supposed to be his best friend. frankly, i personally think it's weird that this even has to be a question.
Unless the topic is brought up by circumstance where it is necessary to divulge that information why would you feel the need to tell anyone. Did your best friend ever tell you what body type they are into?
speaking for myself, yes. my best friends tell me what they like.. because they're my best friends, and i'm perfectly happy with the idea that they can talk to me about interests that are really quite trivial in nature. many of the things i talk about with people i regard as friends aren't things that would be considered a necessity to share with others, because most ideas people share with each other in conversation are almost never essential to know. having my social network share the trivialities of their day along with anything else about themselves is no different from them knowing as a footnote that i just happen to like muscular women.
'weird' isn't a fixed concept, so between yourself and the people around you, it's your responsibility to determine how much the simple notion of socialising with each other can be normalised - and if the idea of buff women as a part of life as we know it is ever normalised, it probably helps to disimilarise it from what we consider as weird among the list of topics which would far more justifiably qualify for that label.
I’m very honest about my preference for buff women when the topic comes up in conversation. It’s very easy and natural for me to reveal my feelings with male and female friends. But it’s awkward to just blurt this out in inappropriate situations. For example, imagine you and your friend are walking down the street and you see an average attractive woman. Your friend might comment that she looks great. You can agree but say that you prefer a more athletic type. It seems this fear of revealing your true feelings about buff women is a problem of younger people. I think in your 20s for example, your friend group is very important. People really need to have more confidence in themselves especially since preferences for buff women often reveal themselves in one’s younger years. Also group think can be somewhat destructive and hold you back from individual achievement. There are studies available to read on this topic.
I will share my experience. I have told 3 people in my life (4 if you count my wife who found through my insta)
I was in my early teens. Internet was very rare and I was at a sleepover at one of my friends who had internet. We were looking at hot women and I told him my preference. He made fun of me a lot but at the end we browsed some pics of gwm online. It was in a dailup so you had to wait an hour just to see a low quality pic. But the experience told me not to share it with other people.
In my university days I was best friends with a girl and after sometime I told her about my love for gwm. She was surprised but didn't make fun of me. Once she even made a bicep just to tease me but nothing else was discussed after that.
After I Got a job and Moved to Europe. I had another girl best friend. I only met her 2/3 times (different country) but online we became really close. Had a lot in common. So after sometime I confided my secret to her. To my surprise she was very supportive. I used to discuss gwm with her a lot. Even though she was not a fan herself she discussed it with me. It was great therapy. She even joined a gym because of me and got fit.
My wife found it through my insta and I told her about my secret. After that day she has never brought it up again ☹️
So, to summarize. I have gone through 4 different reactions. Most of them were negative but the one that was positive really helped my mental health a lot.
All my closer friends know about my love for girls with muscles. Indeed you won't wake up one morning starting telling about your "fetish" randomly. If you feel strange or want to share (I must confess in my case it was refreshing to get open about it) your feelings you might want to wait for the right moment. One day guys were talking about a girl and her boobz, and their size, and bla bla bla you know, guys chat, and I told I liked girls are the gym, because of their firm bodies. Another time in a pub there was this athletic girl who actually had something amazing for everyone, her butt, her legs, and I told I did like her shoulders and arms. Basically I slowly started letting them understand I was attracted by muscles in girls rather than boobs or butt. You might like to have some self irony as well, rather than feeling offended if someone try to joke on you. I'm not that tall lol, so I've been struggling with it my whole life but I've learned to make it my strong point. Basically I'm having the same attitude about the kind of girls I like and why, so instead of feeling bad and letting my friends think I'm feeling strange, I'm showing I'm very confident with it and I'm truly happy feeling also a bit cool cuz I'm different than others and I have different tastes :) Dunno if it makes sense, hope it could help.
judging by this thread alone, you may have to revise that assumption.
LOL, obviously in the real world, not in an anonymous forum. It's kind of implied by being present here already.
there is a wide context in which musclegirls can be introduced in conversation, to the point that it never has to be sexualised. "i think buff women are incredible! i'm a fan such and such a female olympian / kayfabe wrestler / martial artist / fictional heroine / historical figure -"
Saying you like some fictional heroine is not the same as coming out as being sexually attracted to muscular women. You state "never has to be sexualized" as if you feel guilty about being attracted to it.
people are social creatures almost by definition. we will talk about what we like and dislike, particularly with those we consider to be more significant to us. so it's not as if OP is literally 'running around' screaming at the top of his lungs from one street corner to the next about his enthusiasm for musclegirls; from my viewpoint it just seems he simply wants to confess an interest to what's supposed to be his best friend. frankly, i personally think it's weird that this even has to be a question.
It was always my understanding that speaking about our tastes in women is ungentlemanly. So among my friends the topic was very rarely about partners. It's not that I wanted to hide my attraction from my best friends, it's that there was no reason to share it. If I'd just put it out for the sake of it it would be weird and exhibitionist.
LOL, obviously in the real world, not in an anonymous forum. It's kind of implied by being present here already.
this is such a naive, textbook ad hominem statement. you're basically dismissing every account that defies your assumption on the basis that they're being made by people writing under pseudonyms, which in itself is a form of cherry-picking. should i then conclude that everything you've written in your flawed honesty can't be taken seriously because you're writing it as M76 and not under your civilian name? please.. grade school logic.
Saying you like some fictional heroine is not the same as coming out as being sexually attracted to muscular women. You state "never has to be sexualized" as if you feel guilty about being attracted to it.
pointing out that a subject doesn't have to be sexualised in order to be relatable doesn't (and really shouldn't) automatically suggest that i'm trying to 'mask guilt' over my sexual attraction for muscular women anymore than letting you and anyone who reads this know that i'm bisexual should imply that i'm coming onto you, so your interpretive bias is not my responsibility to take account for in this case. stop with the leaping assumptions.
It was always my understanding that speaking about our tastes in women is ungentlemanly. So among my friends the topic was very rarely about partners. It's not that I wanted to hide my attraction from my best friends, it's that there was no reason to share it. If I'd just put it out for the sake of it it would be weird and exhibitionist.
hah, ungentlemanly? i hope you know that you have a rather arbitrary expression of that word going by your message history on this site, unless if you're operating on the delusion that you can't be responsible for anything you say if you're pretending to be someone else. in any case, your understanding here is based on your personal standards, which means it doesn't have to apply to anyone else who wishes to operate differently. you're obviously quite reserved about what you divulge to your close friends and that is your choice, however imposing that mentality as if it's the norm is exactly why i challenged your input to begin with.
just as a reminder.. OP wants to relate about his interest to his best friend, which means the most appropriate reference in this context would be 'confidentiality', not 'exhibitionism'. it is my earnest belief that someone who earns the title of best friend is a person you can you entrust with your very life, let alone with the paltry details of what gets you hot under the collar.. but hey, i guess i'm weird like that! xD
I've, lately, been keener to tell about my preferences. Of course, I don't advertise my desire preferences everywhere or to acquaintances or friends who have no relation to that, but I've already said that I was attracted to strong women and that I am less keen to find attraction in small/petite physiques.
Interestingly enough, I've been open about that to my girlfriend. I showed her pictures, told her about my preferences a few months ago.
I also suggested that she try CrossFit and invited her to my gym on a few occasions. Now she likes it, does CrossFit on an almost daily basis and goes to the gym, sometimes with me, sometimes alone.
She's now interested in becoming thicker/stronger and sees it as a way to strengthen her personality as well. She also took a course or two in martial art recently.
It's become, more or less, a passion of ours. We challenge each other, talk about it, not as an obsession, but as something that we both like — I do lift as well.
As a child I was about as transparent as it gets. I remember I used to draw them in high school. Dudes were weirded out, but chicks were... well, intrigued.
ive always played it off casually as if its a normal thing and I have never been judged on it myself... examples
with close guy mates - on your standard day with guy mates you always point out chicks that you think are hot... one day we saw this GWM and he was like "brooo wtf is that" in a weirded out kind of way. I responded with "that is the sexiest thing I have ever seen" and he questioned me about it and I simply replied "she is dedicated to looking after her body properly ! how can you not like that, its so rare to see, and not everybody can all like the same thing and there's women in all different shapes and sizes and if we all only liked one type then 90% of women would never find a man, there is somebody for anybody" he simply agreed with me and understood.... now whenever he spots a GWM either on insta or in public, he shares it with me just as I will share the thick (semi chubby) girls he likes. no problems.
with my girlfriend - The first day I met her i noticed her abs poking through her shirt and I simply said "hey is that your abs poking through your shirt, how did you do that, are you in the gym" she replied "no its just genetics mostly but ive been going to the gym lately and its gotten stronger" she then lifted up her shirt to show me her abs and flexed them and asked what I thought about it. I said "I love it, its so sexy, can I have your number now" and still to this day, we make jokes with one another that I only fell in love with her because she had abs HAHAHAHA Now she knows that I like seeing her muscle definition and purposefully flexes on me when she wants to get my attention. its the perfect transaction
Just be open about it. Its not weird... think about how many members are on this site ! and like I said to my guy mate... as guys, we cannot all like the exact same thing. some people have a taste for skinny, fat, fit, tall, short, black, white who cares... there is somebody for anybody these days. OWN IT
I only told my lady friend at the time, but it was only because she asked me about kinks. And i was pretty honest and just told her i liked muscular women. I'm so glad i did, now that we're dating and she likes to go to the gym
If you really wanna tell your buddy, you could try to test the waters.. show him a photo that you "accidentally" stumbled across, say something like, "damn man, she's FINE" and mention how you'd like to procreate with her.
Did that with one of my old coworkers i keep in touch with, he even agreed and said athletic chicks are great in bed, and then we had something else in common.
But that's an easy one i guess, since he used to do some bodybuilding himself. Just gotta find a way to sneak it into a conversation and see what happens man.
Don't overthink it too, because everyone has something THEY like and won't tell YOU about, if you know what i mean