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dating - where to find FBBS

Mar 24, 2021 - permalink

I started to train at this place that mostly has gymnasts and such but all of them are fit and a few are buff. I even managed to befriend a former national fitness model champion there and get intimate with her on a few occasions. I found some in my city on Plenty of Fish. One time, I even managed to meet one at a road crossing, I was waiting for the light to turn green, a woman walked up and I've noticed that she has incredible calves so I gave her props for it and started a conversation this way. The best possible option (in my opinion) is to find a girl who isn't fit but really wants to be, you can take her under your wing and basically create the perfect woman.

Bars are the last place you'll find them. A fraction of them go there but most are health freaks and don't even drink.

Mar 24, 2021 - permalink

Go to a fitness expo or show and chat with every fit woman you can find until you find one that wants to bone.

Mar 25, 2021 - permalink

I have the feeling that guys who are attracted to muscular girls have such a high standard that they never find their mate, never get married, never have kids...

there's always exceptions of course.

You’re right, and for a couple of reasons.

First, there are far more guys who are attracted to muscular women than there are muscular women. Hell, even fit women are in the minority, especially in the U.S. And while guys who are attracted to buff women are in the minority, there are still quite a few out there, so there is a higher demand than supply.

Second, while I try not to generalize, from my experience with fellow “schmoes,” a lot of them just don’t want to put the effort into taking the steps to increase their chances of getting with a fit and buff woman. Pre-COVID, I have been to fitness expos, conventions and even fetish-wrestling live shows, and the vast majority of the “schmoes” there look incredibly fat and out of shape. While there are always exceptions, fit women are not going to want to be with a sedentary couch potato: not just from a lack from attraction but also from incompatible lifestyles. We see posts all the time along the lines of “how do I meet FBBs? How do I date FBBs,” and honest and helpful answers are balked at.

You want a muscular woman? You gotta put the effort in. There is no magic pill, place and especially app that’s out there.

Mar 25, 2021 - permalink

Agree with Gatsby. Would also add that social media images distort reality. For most of the time, even elite bodybuilders and physique competitors do not look like the images that get the most likes & favs here.

Mar 25, 2021 - permalink

I also agree with Gatsby. But if you do put the work in, and actually adopt the fit/healthy lifestyle, your chances of meeting and athletic woman and developing an LTR increase significantly. Just remember in an LTR, life happens and your partner’s and your buff physiques will fluctuate over time. Personality counts a lot.

Mar 25, 2021 - permalink

Gatsby is right. I got into bodybuilding years ago - partly because of my own interest in it but my attraction to muscle was also absolutely an influence. Many muscular women have a similar reasoning.

Few muscular women want to be with out of shape guys. Going to a show or expo is not going to work if you are heavy. Those places are filled with muscular men, and despite what many might believe, they can be charming and sharp as well as in shape. Muscle girls are attracted to that, and the shared lifestyle.

If you want to meet muscular women you have to embrace that lifestyle, at least to some degree. Or accept that you will likely need to be paying for experiences.

Mar 26, 2021 - permalink

If you want to meet muscular women you have to embrace that lifestyle, at least to some degree. Or accept that you will likely need to be paying for experiences.

This is a given, a necessary-but-not-sufficient condition to get anywhere near a muscular woman. Guys who don't train who think Juliana Malacarne is going to fall into their laps are delusional. But you don't have to be a mass monster or user to get with one, either. I was struck by seeing who Nicole Wilkins ended up with. He's got a very typical physique and he's of fairly average size. I know from speaking with some muscular women that though they admire male bodybuilders, they consider them more trouble than they're worth, in a sense. Most muscular women are comfortable being the stars in their relationships, and they aren't all that interested in being with guys who draw as much attention as IFBB-pro BBs. And a lot of male BBs are with women who aren't physique athletes. So there is hope for the rest of us who lift but take a pass on gear.

Mar 26, 2021 - permalink

Become a coach who specializes in preying on women and dealing drugs.

Own a hard-core gym, and instead of looking the other way on drug deals, insist on a percentage.

Work your up the ranks of the Russian mafia, become a billionaire, buy a yacht, and don't get murdered by Putin. This third one has the advantage of not having to be jacked, but you will almost certainly be overweight.

Mar 26, 2021 - edited Mar 26, 2021 - permalink

This is a given, a necessary-but-not-sufficient condition to get anywhere near a muscular woman. Guys who don't train who think Juliana Malacarne is going to fall into their laps are delusional. But you don't have to be a mass monster or user to get with one, either. I was struck by seeing who Nicole Wilkins ended up with. He's got a very typical physique and he's of fairly average size. I know from speaking with some muscular women that though they admire male bodybuilders, they consider them more trouble than they're worth, in a sense. Most muscular women are comfortable being the stars in their relationships, and they aren't all that interested in being with guys who draw as much attention as IFBB-pro BBs. And a lot of male BBs are with women who aren't physique athletes. So there is hope for the rest of us who lift but take a pass on gear.

Lol most dudes that lift wouldn't even get Juliana Malacarne falling in their laps. But thanks, now I'm fantasizing of Juliana sitting on my lap.

And I'd say you have to be in pretty damn good shape to date a girl who's into the bodybuilding lifestyle (whether it's figure, physique, wellness, etc). That's the gist of it. You don't have to compete but you gotta look like you workout.

Mar 26, 2021 - permalink

When did trying to be someone you aren’t inherently are work as far as getting a woman? Not often. Be yourself. Be a gentleman. Don’t try so hard. Be confident in who you are. You’d be surprised what/who “falls into your lap”. This has been my experience. Do not get discouraged. Good luck.

Mar 26, 2021 - permalink

Lol most dudes that lift wouldn't even get Juliana Malacarne falling in their laps. But thanks, now I'm fantasizing of Juliana sitting on my lap.

Go look up the definition of "hyperbole." Either that, or retake ninth-grade English.

And I'd say you have to be in pretty damn good shape to date a girl who's into the bodybuilding lifestyle (whether it's figure, physique, wellness, etc). That's the gist of it. You don't have to compete but you gotta look like you workout.

That's funny. Define "pretty damn good shape." Allan Donnelly isn't in anyone's idea of "pretty damn good shape," and Nicole Wilkins had his child. Some of the guys Juliana's been with were far from physique athletes. Jennifer Gates was married to a regular dude. Lindsey Cope didn't marry a guy who was in great shape. Cerra has been with some guys who were really skinny and looked like they'd never touched a weight.

Mar 26, 2021 - edited Mar 26, 2021 - permalink

@marlinbrando, I bet all the dudes your mentioning were in good shape at some point when they met their mates. Life happens to people and it’s not always synchronized. I realize some dudes want to maintain that you could be average build or out of shape and still meet a buff girl. Odds are against that happening. And when if it does seem to happen, the quality of that relationship is probably poor. There is no compatibility based on lifestyle and values. The woman also is likely not too happy with her sex life.

Mar 26, 2021 - edited Mar 26, 2021 - permalink

Go look up the definition of "hyperbole." Either that, or retake ninth-grade English.

Which grade do they teach to not be a douche ? Go back to that one pal, and take some notes.

That's funny. Define "pretty damn good shape." Allan Donnelly isn't in anyone's idea of "pretty damn good shape," and Nicole Wilkins had his child. Some of the guys Juliana's been with were far from physique athletes. Jennifer Gates was married to a regular dude. Lindsey Cope didn't marry a guy who was in great shape. Cerra has been with some guys who were really skinny and looked like they'd never touched a weight.

"pretty damn good shape" = look fit. Like you lift, or run. Like fitness is a part of your life as opposed to 5 o'clock happy hour beers is your life. But the more in shape you are, the better your chances are. At least to get your foot in the door. Sure there's always exceptions, but why not improve your odds as much as possible?

Mar 29, 2021 - permalink

The thing about FBB + dating is this. Let's be honest, most women are not bodybuilders (though I would argue that more women are into exercising therefore are overall in better shape then men) therefore you already shrunken the dating pool if you even began. And on top of it being a very small group of women who in that group, let's be honest. Most female bodybuilders and athletic women want to be with guys who are muscleheads. Finding a FBB who would be interested in dating a guy who is just in "good shape" is very rare let alone an average Joe or even a guy who is out of shape. I had some experience (but not a lot) dating FBB and that is what I found. They really are just attracted to guys who are massive like them. Even someone like me who is overall in very good shape and works out with weights regularly is not what they are really for either. I had one admit to me years after we first meant (and she went on to marry a bodybuilder and start a family with him) that hindsight she would been better off with someone like me then her husband who wound up getting bored and leaving her for a younger version of herself but she is just not really attracted to guys unless they are true muscleheads.

So we are really against it when trying to find a FBB to date.

Apr 22, 2021 - permalink

I’ll say (Besides The Gym) Beach, Malls, Fitness Conventions, a famous tourist area

Apr 22, 2021 - permalink

Wholefood market is one also where FBB'ers shopping.

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