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Had a negative experience with a physique girl on Facebook. She posted a photo from her first prep and I replied with "The first step on a storied path" and a few hours later she posted an angry video about me accusing her of using steroids. She's an IFBB pro, so it's a given that she's not natural.
i think it's entirely possible she read it as "STEROID" path LMAO
Nope.
Unfortunately there are some not so nice people out there on both sides. I've only had positive experiences with FBB's and session wrestlers. But I treat them like anyone else. I treat them with respect and keep it casual and natural. I think some guys struggle with that a bit. If you act like a creep or a weirdo you're more likely to have a bad experience.
Just treat them like people, they are people just like the rest of us. Most people do not want to be treated like objects or spectacles or specimens. It's OK to admire and complement someone's physique and ask questions, but try to be normal guys.
I don't know how many times I've seen creepy shit online that scares these females away and it makes me cringe every time. Like posting comments on some teenage cheerleaders social media asking her if she can lift a car or stupid shit like that. Or asking for a flex right out of the gate before any other conversation. Use your head guys. Also think about what you say. Calling a woman a "monster" might sound like a compliment to you, but for most women, it's not. Express genuine admiration. Tell them you are impressed by their dedication. Stuff like that. That doesn't mean you have to pretend you aren't attracted, they aren't stupid. They know why you're there. Just don't make it weird. God, why is this so hard for so many of you? SMGDH.
Pretty much this.
Of course there are going to be FBBs (same with everybody else) who are jerks and treat other people with disrespect. But if every interaction that you have with a muscular woman is negative, you have to do a little bit of introspection on why that is. There was a thread talking about shame when it comes to being attracted to buff women. I am not, nor have I ever been ashamed of being into muscular women, but what does make me embarrassed, however, is seeing how other people who have the same attraction I do act towards those women. Taking a pic of someone and tagging them without their consent (especially when they don't know you) is very creepy, and asking women to flex when they're going about their business is obnoxious. I personally know a few muscular women through my gym, and they get asked to flex all the time, and it gets really tiring to them. Trust me when I say that even though men who are turned on by buff women are in the minority, there are far more of us out there than you might realize.
Not trying to sound harsh, but reading some of the responses here make me realize that there are a lot of "schmoes" who really have no idea how to talk to women. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to muscles, and there's nothing wrong to wacking off to pictures of them, but if you talk to them like they're only a fetish object, don't be surprised if they are non too pleased by it. Talk to them like a human, and you'll go a long way. It also solves the question of "How do I meet/attract female bodybuilders?" And if you still need help with that, we had a thread that had quite a few people share their success with dating and attracting buff women. Try talking to them about their experience, but I guarantee that a common thread with all of them is that part of their success came from treating their now-partners like actual people versus as a fetish object and being creepy.
That's exactly what happened. I think it was a case of seeing what you want to see.
That is too funny... her problem not yours, obviously!
Pretty much this.
Of course there are going to be FBBs (same with everybody else) who are jerks and treat other people with disrespect. But if every interaction that you have with a muscular woman is negative, you have to do a little bit of introspection on why that is. There was a thread talking about shame when it comes to being attracted to buff women. I am not, nor have I ever been ashamed of being into muscular women, but what does make me embarrassed, however, is seeing how other people who have the same attraction I do act towards those women. Taking a pic of someone and tagging them without their consent (especially when they don't know you) is very creepy, and asking women to flex when they're going about their business is obnoxious. I personally know a few muscular women through my gym, and they get asked to flex all the time, and it gets really tiring to them. Trust me when I say that even though men who are turned on by buff women are in the minority, there are far more of us out there than you might realize.
Not trying to sound harsh, but reading some of the responses here make me realize that there are a lot of "schmoes" who really have no idea how to talk to women. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to muscles, and there's nothing wrong to wacking off to pictures of them, but if you talk to them like they're only a fetish object, don't be surprised if they are non too pleased by it. Talk to them like a human, and you'll go a long way. It also solves the question of "How do I meet/attract female bodybuilders?" And if you still need help with that, we had a thread that had quite a few people share their success with dating and attracting buff women. Try talking to them about their experience, but I guarantee that a common thread with all of them is that part of their success came from treating their now-partners like actual people versus as a fetish object and being creepy.
Well put, and right on the money.
Nope.
Unfortunately there are some not so nice people out there on both sides. I've only had positive experiences with FBB's and session wrestlers. But I treat them like anyone else. I treat them with respect and keep it casual and natural. I think some guys struggle with that a bit. If you act like a creep or a weirdo you're more likely to have a bad experience.
Just treat them like people, they are people just like the rest of us. Most people do not want to be treated like objects or spectacles or specimens. It's OK to admire and complement someone's physique and ask questions, but try to be normal guys.
I don't know how many times I've seen creepy shit online that scares these females away and it makes me cringe every time. Like posting comments on some teenage cheerleaders social media asking her if she can lift a car or stupid shit like that. Or asking for a flex right out of the gate before any other conversation. Use your head guys. Also think about what you say. Calling a woman a "monster" might sound like a compliment to you, but for most women, it's not. Express genuine admiration. Tell them you are impressed by their dedication. Stuff like that. That doesn't mean you have to pretend you aren't attracted, they aren't stupid. They know why you're there. Just don't make it weird. God, why is this so hard for so many of you? SMGDH.