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World has been shit since 2016 agreed.
I somehow don't think it's the world, it's us.
Go to a bar, join a gym/club, pick up a hobby, etc. There are plenty of places to meet people. Don’t mean to come down on you too hard but people who complain they are alone often don’t put in any effort to overcome it. You have to fix yourself before you can start to enjoy life again
Go to a bar, join a gym/club, pick up a hobby, etc. There are plenty of places to meet people. Don’t mean to come down on you too hard but people who complain they are alone often don’t put in any effort to overcome it. You have to fix yourself before you can start to enjoy life again
You think I havent tried that goddamn moron?
You think I havent tried that goddamn moron?
Then it’s like you said. You’re better off dead
I’ve felt and thought in a similar way myself. But years ago I told myself: fuck it, this is it — work, home, a few hobbies, fitness; every day is the same. No big expectations.
When I think about it, I’m living in the most comfortable period. I have everything — it’s true that emotionally I’m not really fulfilled, but there’s no war, no major troubles in my life.
When I think about my parents and grandparents, they had to go to the field just to use the toilet, they didn’t have hot water. I really have nothing to complain about.
Be grateful for the little things — it’s much easier that way. But it’s true that switching your mindset is hard. Tell toxic people to fuck off…
Go to a bar, join a gym/club, pick up a hobby, etc. There are plenty of places to meet people. Don’t mean to come down on you too hard but people who complain they are alone often don’t put in any effort to overcome it. You have to fix yourself before you can start to enjoy life again
The gym is the best place to feel alone among many people. I been to the gym for 3 years now, made 0 friends. Everyone has their headphones on and acts like they don't want to be bothered. I NEVER wear headphones and always greet the bros in the lockers. Interactions (besides mundane stuff like do you use that, how many sets you got left etc.) just don't happen and don't feel welcome. The people I've seen socializing are people that came together to the gym or seem to know each other from somewhere else.
You think I havent tried that goddamn moron?
Dude, not saying this is the main reason you're alone, but being a bitter asshole surely does not help.
When I think about my parents and grandparents, they had to go to the field just to use the toilet, they didn’t have hot water. I really have nothing to complain about.
To be honest I'd rather go to the field to use the toilet than be lonely for years on end.
Gym is a good first step into the right direction. Try doing some charity, voluntary work. Getting 2 jobs. Keep yourself busy. Learn another skill like electrician, plumbing, languages. Reading books can help you change.
But you need to put yourself out there, it's very difficult that's why joining a BJJ/MMA club might be better for you. It's very hard though you need to break the mental barrier.
The gym is the best place to feel alone among many people. I been to the gym for 3 years now, made 0 friends. Everyone has their headphones on and acts like they don't want to be bothered. I NEVER wear headphones and always greet the bros in the lockers. Interactions (besides mundane stuff like do you use that, how many sets you got left etc.) just don't happen and don't feel welcome. The people I've seen socializing are people that came together to the gym or seem to know each other from somewhere else.
Dude, not saying this is the main reason you're alone, but being a bitter asshole surely does not help.
Oh no, I said "Bullshit", noone will ever talk to me ever again.
Gym is a good first step into the right direction. Try doing some charity, voluntary work. Getting 2 jobs. Keep yourself busy. Learn another skill like electrician, plumbing, languages. Reading books can help you change.
But you need to put yourself out there, it's very difficult that's why joining a BJJ/MMA club might be better for you. It's very hard though you need to break the mental barrier.
My job is already taking all my time (way more than 8 hours a day).
I tried climbing for about 2 years, way, way more social sport than the gym, but the story is pretty much the same. People are nice, but they have their own little groups and there's a skill hierarchy. The regulars are generally the very skilled ones and though they are nice, you don't really have an opportunity to befriend them because they are working on totally different routes.
And for the rest of the people, it was always the same. Met them once, had a great time together, never seen them again (or seen them again 2 months later). And the thing is most people are put off if you are too clingy or seem to be there with the explicit intention of making friends (like you can't ask a dude for his phone number after working together for 20 minutes on a route). Building a natural connection requires some recurrence and some social glue. And of course, on top of that people also have to match, otherwise you're just going to make acquaintances.
Think about school or high-school, then it was way easier to make at least one friend because you met the same people over and over again every day for possibly multiple years, you had activities together, there were opportunities for people to get to know you and you to know them.
I am not a teenager anymore, I don't have 6 hours every day to put into doing random activities. Climbing for instance was already an insanely time consuming thing, 1 hour to get there, 1.5 - 2 hours on the session, 1 hour to get back home.
Guy posts a clear cry for attention, and when people try to offer advice to uplift him, he starts attacking them. No wonder he has no one in his life!
Guy posts a clear cry for attention, and when people try to offer advice to uplift him, he starts attacking them. No wonder he has no one in his life!
I never asked for advice
Oh no, I said "Bullshit", noone will ever talk to me ever again.
No, you were rude, just like you were rude here earlier with BeastCoast13. And yeah, being rude is something that puts people off.
I have less and less people I can talk to each year I can't even meet anyone on New Years Even because there's noone to meet
Think about it, the people you would like to meet / talk to, would you like them to be blunt assholes to you?
No, you were rude, just like you were rude here earlier with BeastCoast13. And yeah, being rude is something that puts people off.
Think about it, the people you would like to meet / talk to, would you like them to be blunt assholes to you?
People turn their back on me regardless weather I'm nice or not.
People turn their back on me regardless weather I'm nice or not.
Why do you think that is? (asking seriously, not rhetorically)
If it's because you had the bad luck of meeting only shitty people, I am sure you are aware not all people in the world are like that. Well, now imagine someone with good intentions would stumble your way and you blow off your chance to make a friend or a partner because you were rude to them (or to someone else and they noticed).
Why do you think that is? (asking seriously, not rhetorically)
If it's because you had the bad luck of meeting only shitty people, I am sure you are aware not all people in the world are like that. Well, now imagine someone with good intentions would stumble your way and you blow off your chance to make a friend or a partner because you were rude to them (or to someone else and they noticed).
How am I supposed to know? There are tons of people that I was always friendly with, sometimes for years and they would just ghost me like I didn't exist. Both online and IRL. Once that happens enough times, you get really tired of being nice to everyone.
How am I supposed to know? There are tons of people that I was always friendly with, sometimes for years and they would just ghost me like I didn't exist. Both online and IRL. Once that happens enough times, you get really tired of being nice to everyone.
I'll be honest, mate. Not being rude just because you don't want people to isolate you sounds like not killing someone just because you don't want to go to prison.
If you're gonna be a grouch, you are adding yourself an extra social de-buff for no reason and for no benefit. Think about it, people don't think "wow, that guy is an asshole, I wonder what goes on in his heart, I'm gonna try to get to know him better". They're just gonna think "fuck that guy" and avoid you.
Also I know getting ghosted sucks really bad, but have you never ever ghosted anyone ever or been dull in replies to the point they gave up? Not even a random bum on the street asking you how's your day?
People have their own problems and limited time, and yeah, you were probably not special enough for them (no romantical interest, no financial interest, no great memories to bond over, etc.), but that does not make it necessarily your fault or their fault. I personally have 2 best friends who care about me (to an extent) and I still feel alone, as there are many things I can't communicate with them because they wouldn't understand (very different life experiences).
If what you seek is deep human connection, I think that's just very hard to find, especially if you're not exactly normal (as in a regular healthy stable person with a normal past, normal thoughts, normal interests etc.).
But run this experiment in your head, if you were to magically meet all 8.000.000.000 people, do you truly think absolutely 0 of them would be a match for you? You know that's absurd. And I think the difference between "very difficult" and "impossible" is hope.
Just like 2024, 2023, 2022, 2021, all the way back until 2016, nothing good ever happens in my life, I have less and less people I can talk to each year, with each year I'm more and more of an emtional, mental and physical fucking wreck, I can't even meet anyone on New Years Even because there's noone to meet. I'm just perpetually, chornicly alone with nothing to do.
Enough, I want to be dead.