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I once told my wife at the beginning of our relationship. She reacted rather surprised and laughing. She still makes fun of me every now and then. Sometimes she makes me feel embarrassed in front of others. If there is a talk about muscular women in sports. For example athletics or tennis. If other comments come from "that athlete is very muscular" then she cannot resist saying, "well, my husband thinks that is very beautiful" The stupid thing is that I am ashamed of it, which of course ridiculous. Even if we have sex and it doesn't work, she sometimes says "just think of such a muscular Romanian woman". I just resigned myself to the fact that she finds it strange and crazy. We hardly talk about it any more.
I once told my wife at the beginning of our relationship. She reacted rather surprised and laughing. She still makes fun of me every now and then. Sometimes she makes me feel embarrassed in front of others. If there is a talk about muscular women in sports. For example athletics or tennis. If other comments come from "that athlete is very muscular" then she cannot resist saying, "well, my husband thinks that is very beautiful" The stupid thing is that I am ashamed of it, which of course ridiculous. Even if we have sex and it doesn't work, she sometimes says "just think of such a muscular Romanian woman". I just resigned myself to the fact that she finds it strange and crazy. We hardly talk about it any more.
And there you have it - be ultra careful of the impact it will have being open. even if you partner is a regular gym goer. so women can handle it for sure, where others cant, it will have an impact i fear.
I didn't tell me wife but in 10 years of marriage it was bound to come out. And the reaction was as I expected. She was appalled by this. She is the opposite of a gwm and not at all interested in going to the gym. Since then she has pretty much ignored this side of mine, other than making a joke or two here and there. I feel a little bit better that the weight of my chest is lifted. But nothing good came out of it.
I didn't tell me wife but in 10 years of marriage it was bound to come out. And the reaction was as I expected. She was appalled by this. She is the opposite of a gwm and not at all interested in going to the gym. Since then she has pretty much ignored this side of mine, other than making a joke or two here and there. I feel a little bit better that the weight of my chest is lifted. But nothing good came out of it.
Man, I'm so sorry for you. I think lots of people underestimate just how 'fringe' loving feminine muscle is, even though more women are into fitness than ever before. Muscle still = masculine and therefore 'weird' to most people. It sucks and I envy those guys who have partners who are supportive of their sexual preferences.
So a while back my wife was on my phone and came across some content from GWM site that I had on it. She gave me a reaction that was to be expected, saying that's disgusting and these women look like men, you find this attractive and or want to be with someone who looks like this. Furthermore she throws it in my face and is insecure about it saying things like you like women who look like men and are bodybuilders, you know this is bordering being gay. Now mind you I believe she came across pics of Brooke Ence, Katrin Davidottir and Amanda Barnhardt. Now I do find fit muscular women very attached and appealing. Idk if my wife is just jealous, insecure or unsure how to react to knowing this about me. I've told her that she is my wife and I love her and everything about her no matter what whether she looks like these types of women or not, however that alone hasn't been enough. She still makes rude comments and tries to belittle me making fun of me because I like fit women with muscular physiques!
So a while back my wife was on my phone and came across some content from GWM site that I had on it. She gave me a reaction that was to be expected, saying that's disgusting and these women look like men,
What a piece of work.
you find this attractive and or want to be with someone who looks like this. Furthermore she throws it in my face and is insecure about it saying things like you like women who look like men and are bodybuilders, you know this is bordering being gay. Now mind you I believe she came across pics of Brooke Ence, Katrin Davidottir and Amanda Barnhardt. Now I do find fit muscular women very attached and appealing. Idk if my wife is just jealous, insecure or unsure how to react to knowing this about me. I've told her that she is my wife and I love her and everything about her no matter what whether she looks like these types of women or not, however that alone hasn't been enough. She still makes rude comments and tries to belittle me making fun of me because I like fit women with muscular physiques!
That last part - belittling you - was my main takeaway here. Confront that shit. We ALL constantly have things to work on, but that's fucked up. There's a difference between gentle teasing and belittling that's a matter of respect. It's entirely possible to dislike something your partner is into without disrespecting them for it.
What a piece of work.
That last part - belittling you - was my main takeaway here. Confront that shit. We ALL constantly have things to work on, but that's fucked up. There's a difference between gentle teasing a belittling that's a matter of respect. It's entirely possible to dislike something your partner is into without disrespecting them for it.
I shared my attraction to fit/muscular women with a good friend of mine. I taped the Montel episode with FBBs at his house and after helping him do some repairs at a side job, we came back to watch the episode. I guess his interpretation of fit/muscular women was 1000% different than mine. He told me how gross the women were. After that, he and his lady friend would often tease me at the gym, if a muscular woman was nearby. Are you getting wood? Oh, oh...I see a tent forming in your pants. They were rude and ruthless. This was many years ago and I rarely confided my love for muscle girls with anyone. I guess I should have just told them to fuck off but they embarrassed me. Maybe the buffed women nearby heard their remarks. I find muscular women sexy beyond mere words. Nobody likes to feel insulted for our taste in women, albeit different from the norm.
Yeah, my ex — note EX — went down that road a lot. There’s a difference between gentle ribbing and total lack of respect. For those who think they can tough it out and if they just don’t mention any peculiar fetishes or interests to their loved ones — they always find out, and the truly disrespectful never let it go,
Man, I'm so sorry for you. I think lots of people underestimate just how 'fringe' loving feminine muscle is, even though more women are into fitness than ever before. Muscle still = masculine and therefore 'weird' to most people. It sucks and I envy those guys who have partners who are supportive of their sexual preferences.
Thanks. My wife does not belittle me like the above post but she completely ignores it, thinking it's a phase. Which is also kinda sad.
Great thread. My wife knows that I enjoy her muscles, but doesn't know the extent of what I like. She's very naturally muscular, like she looks like an off-season fbb. She's happy to let me do the "worship" activities, wrestle, headscissor, etc. but doesn't really get anything out of it other than knowing I enjoy it.
And there you have it - be ultra careful of the impact it will have being open. even if you partner is a regular gym goer. so women can handle it for sure, where others cant, it will have an impact i fear.
I was sadly mistaken in my wife's acceptance of fbb. As I said before, she joked about it and thought it was strange, but since last week I know that she understands my feeling for muscular women a little less. I was with her at the Eiffel Tower and there was a fbb who had pictures taken of her. I did not know what I saw. She was really muscular and I said to my wife that I wanted to take a picture of her. That's what I did (asked first of course). From that moment the holiday was over. She felt very ugly and humiliated by my action. We have now talked it out and it will certainly be ok again, but I don't have to do this again.
I was sadly mistaken in my wife's acceptance of fbb. As I said before, she joked about it and thought it was strange, but since last week I know that she understands my feeling for muscular women a little less. I was with her at the Eiffel Tower and there was a fbb who had pictures taken of her. I did not know what I saw. She was really muscular and I said to my wife that I wanted to take a picture of her. That's what I did (asked first of course). From that moment the holiday was over. She felt very ugly and humiliated by my action. We have now talked it out and it will certainly be ok again, but I don't have to do this again.
LOL fbb or not if you take a pic with another woman all while drooling in front of her ofc she will be jealous/ pissed
I never shared it with my wife while we were dating. She had been a college athlete so still fit but not like her college days. It wasn't until about 8-10 years into our marriage that she found out by accident. We had a personal desktop computer we both used, and I had my work computer. I got busy with something for my job and completely forgot I had left a window open on the browser; it was a pic of Joanna Thomas. When she opened it up I was around the corner in another room, and I hear, "WTF is this!". I don't remember how I explained it away, but probably another 2 years after that, she trained for and competed in a Figure competition (no PEDs). She looked amazing, and I told her that often. That was when I shared my love of female muscle. She played into it occasionally but never did another competition and quit working out altogether. She would, and still does sometimes, point out muscular females to me when we're out somewhere if she didn't think I saw them. Despite the fact she hasn't worked out consistently in several years, she's constantly asked by other females if she's working out again because her arms often look like she is. She is definitely blessed with good genetics. We just recently had another discussion about it because she hasn't been happy with some weight she's gained so may start up again. I work out typically 5-6 days a week (weights and cardio) so it's been difficult to keep my mouth shut and not push her because in the past, that would just push her away further from wanting to work out regularly again.
I also feel there is more to that story than he is letting on. Something tells me he lacks situational awareness.
Wow, man you should never talk about liking another girl with your SO. Women are jealous creatures by nature. And you went all the way to ask her that you want to have your picture taken with someone that you like. Really bad move. No Wonder the holiday was over. Ps a word of advice, do not think this is over. You will keep paying for this mistake for the rest of your life
Wow, man you should never talk about liking another girl with your SO. Women are jealous creatures by nature. And you went all the way to ask her that you want to have your picture taken with someone that you like. Really bad move. No Wonder the holiday was over. Ps a word of advice, do not think this is over. You will keep paying for this mistake for the rest of your life
Exactly
I was sadly mistaken in my wife's acceptance of fbb. As I said before, she joked about it and thought it was strange, but since last week I know that she understands my feeling for muscular women a little less. I was with her at the Eiffel Tower and there was a fbb who had pictures taken of her. I did not know what I saw. She was really muscular and I said to my wife that I wanted to take a picture of her. That's what I did (asked first of course). From that moment the holiday was over. She felt very ugly and humiliated by my action. We have now talked it out and it will certainly be ok again, but I don't have to do this again.
I always wonder how some guys get a gf or wife anyways if they are that kind of naive or slowly in thinking - wow...
I've always been enamored with buffed girls my entire life. Upon hitting the jackpot and marrying a muscular woman many years ago, I was living the dream for 4 years.
After we broke up, I knew I could never be completely happy in a relationship, unless my wife or girlfriend had at least some muscle. As shallow and selfish as that may sound, I knew I would be cheating myself and any non-muscled woman, I was with.
I've had some incredibly good luck opening up from the start and just telling women about my attraction to athletic, muscular women. A couple of them were already toned and loved that their hard bodies really got me going. A few others began lifting weights. I'm sure they mainly did it to please me but after seeing the results, loved the changes in their bodies.
I think the key is being honest from the start. That way, win or lose, the women know where each of you stand. Leading by example probably would help too. I became a complete gym rat after my muscular ex-wife began cheating on me and we divorced. She knew how much her muscles excited me but in return, I was thin as a rail and quite weak. I guess, in her eyes, I wasn't deserving a strong, muscular wife.
I suppose the real difficulty would lie in already being in a long term relationship and then springing your attraction to muscular women on them. If it's a new relationship being honest from the start would help. It still might break the relationship but if you're like me, you'll never be happy if you long for muscular women and your partner isn't buffed at all.
This is kind of an "out there" philosophy to some, but I don't think there's anything wrong with normalizing finding your satisfaction for muscular women outside of your relationship (as long as it's fully consensual with your partner of course, with regular check-ins to make sure it's still ok). My wife lifts and has put on a lot of muscle for her frame, but she's reached her natural limit and isn't willing to go on gear at all, and isn't willing to cut to be at an abnormally low body fat to look totally ripped for me. But she's ok with me doing all the sessions I want to get that roided out, massively muscled, 5% body fat muscle woman satisfaction that I need. We agreed when we started dating that it's unfair to expect your partner to provide absolutely everything you need, and that as long as it's consensual, it's ok to go elsewhere to satisfy needs. Once again, this approach may not be for everyone, but it has really helped keep our relationship very healthy and thriving since literally the only thing my wife can't provide for me is Andrea Shaw-like muscle mass. Consensual non-monogamy can be a really healthy thing!
I'm lucky because my wife has always been buff. I noticed her calves first, and the rest was pretty nice, too. But the calves are still outstanding -- like Michele Jin [almost]
@redman...Mmmm, a couple suggestions. Buy your sexy wife lots of high heeled shoes. Place groceries, other items, on shelves just out of her reach, to get her on her toes. 😂😁 If your wife's calves even resemble these beauties from Michelle Jin...😳😳
I really don’t understand why guys who are attracted to fit, buff women get into relationships with women who don’t work out at all and life sedentary lives. Yeah, if you limit yourself to JUST bodybuilders you’ll find it hard to date, but don’t go for women who are the opposite of what gets your engine running and then act all shocked if they’re not receptive to your female bodybuilder fetish
LOL fbb or not if you take a pic with another woman all while drooling in front of her ofc she will be jealous/ pissed
yeah this was kinda obvious
and to share... Ive had 4 serious relationships over 20+ years and first two I told them after a while and those failed... they try to please you but it's not in them (they dont enjoy the gym or dont want to do it for themselves which is key) and other stuff like self esteem going down, etc etc
Next 2 relationships I decided not to tell them and they failed again.
Now close to a month ago, after going through a depression period I decided to change it up and do things I would never do before. Go completely out of my zone of comfort. Decided to also get back into the gym for real and eat healthy... close to a month in, I meet my now GF and it's basically because I was just outright searching for muscles first, personality later (before it was the other way around, they would kinda grow on me and of course, they wanted to go out with me so yeah there's that).
I decided to tell her from the get go as well.. .and I mean full on, like flexing and everything and guess what? It's been GREAT. She tell me stories about other people and their reactions to her body, she loves the fact that I admire her body and that it drives me crazy. She does everything to try and please me and learn from what I like.
So if you ask me? Just go for what you want, straight out. Being in shape help and I honestly hit the jackpot cause Im overweight (60lbs over) and she still went for me... I'm around 30lbs lighter now after 2 months getting my act together.
While yes, there are areas in the U.S. that have a higher proportion of overweight/obese adults, most communities have knits of fit people and gyms that cater to them. Hell I have seen Crossfit gyms in pretty small towns in the south sport some pretty fit men and women. Granted, your odds of finding a super-muscular and/or ripped athlete (like the ones featured on this site) are relatively rare regardless of where you are, you could still probably find some reasonably fit and muscular women at those gyms. Remember, the muscular women here are the top of the top of the top of the top when it comes to physique. If you reframe expectations outside of what you see on social media, you'll find fit and naturally muscular ladies at those places.
And no, you don't have to be a bodybuilder to attract them. You should look like you know your way around a gym, but you don't need to be a PED-using behemoth