"How much do you bench?"
"How big are your biceps?"
"Can I touch _____?"
Granted, you can get away with some of these if your level of charisma is through the roof. But for most guys (99%), this is not the case.
Here’s a truth: If a woman is muscular, then they have dealt with schmoes. I promise you, they know EXACTLY the kind of comments and questions a schmoe would make. If you say anything that hints at fetishizing them, no matter how subtle, you’re not gonna get anywhere.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t talk about anything involving bodybuilding or whatever strength sport they do. Instead of talking about their body or “how much can you bench?” talk about the competitions, their training programming, their goals. Make it more about the work they do versus the fetish-questions.
this is really good: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RV-DMyl_Je4
enjoy!