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I gathered the courage to shoot my shot and broke the ice: "Excuse me, sorry to bother you, but for how long have you been training?" To my surprise, the conversation just took off. She was super friendly and chill... I think keeping the whole conversation respectful and genuine earlier kept me from coming across as a creep.
This guy gets it.
You just talk to women with muscles the same way as you talk to any other women. Nine times out of ten it turns out that they're very happy to have a conversation.
All you have to do is fight down the urge to ask them if you can call them 'mommy' and squeeze their quads while they stamp up and down on your nutsack as your opening question.
Congratulations to the OP for getting it right. It sounds easy on paper, but as the GWM forums remind us, so many find it an impossible challenge.
This guy gets it.
Congratulations to the OP for getting it right. It sounds easy on paper, but as the GWM forums remind us, so many find it an impossible challenge.
Thanks a lot man. And yeah:
You just talk to women with muscles the same way as you talk to any other women. Nine times out of ten it turns out that they're very happy to have a conversation.
All you have to do is fight down the urge to ask them if you can call them 'mommy' and squeeze their quads while they stamp up and down on your nutsack as your opening question.
That’s the whole point. Yeah, we have a huge weakness for muscular women, but at the end of the day they're just regular people. There's no need to put them on a pedestal or treat them like some fantasy object. I consider myself pretty extroverted, but of course your brain can freeze for a second when your exact type walks right in front of you. Once you push past that and just treat them like a normal human being, everything flows.
Btw, turns out she's on this site... that's a bit weird, to know that I met someone who's on this site (?)
This guy gets it.
You just talk to women with muscles the same way as you talk to any other women.
Okay and why did he ask and said things like that:
- "Excuse me, sorry to bother you, but for how long have you been Training?"
- to represent our country in bodybuilding competitions
- Nowadays she works as a personal trainer
- Right before my stop, I impulsively asked if I could feel her flexed bicep
-> Everything they talk is bodybuilding related.
Okay and why did he ask and said things like that:
Probably because the guy in the situation was judging nonverbal cues as well as the woman’s openness to follow up conversation.
If he had gotten a negative vibe, he probably would not have pushed the conversation.
Probably because the guy in the situation was judging nonverbal cues as well as the woman’s openness to follow up conversation.
If he had gotten a negative vibe, he probably would not have pushed the conversation.
You misunderstood the whole thing. Trools said: "You just talk to women with muscles the same way as you talk to any other women". Well no, this is not the way I usually talk to other woman. I never ever said: "could I feel your flexed bicep" to a normal woman. Oh, and I never said or asked that to a Fbb.
She gave me her IG, which is strictly for her personal training business (she even followed me back), but honestly, I'm just riding the high of actually pushing past the fear and doing it. Considering the odds of running into an actual female bodybuilder around here, I just had to share the win with people who'd actually get it.
Great job. Pushing past the fear and actually doing it, as you said, builds confidence. Next time you encounter a woman like this, now you know you can talk to her and get a positive response. If you've done it once, you can do it again.
Thanks for sharing.
You misunderstood the whole thing. Trools said: "You just talk to women with muscles the same way as you talk to any other women". Well no, this is not the way I usually talk to other woman. I never ever said: "could I feel your flexed bicep" to a normal woman. Oh, and I never said or asked that to a Fbb.
Fair point on paper, but I believe you're missing some important stuff. Obviously nobody goes around asking random people to touch their arms as an opener; that was the very end of a ten-minute, super friendly conversation where the vibe was genuinely relaxed and open, and I clearly read her nonverbal cues through all the conversation before asking. If she had shown even a bit of hesitation or coldness earlier, I wouldn't have dreamed of it. The point wasn't "do this exact script with every woman", it was having the guts to start a respectful, normal conversation instead of being paralyzed by anxiety.
Great job. Pushing past the fear and actually doing it, as you said, builds confidence. Next time you encounter a woman like this, now you know you can talk to her and get a positive response. If you've done it once, you can do it again.
Thanks for sharing.
Appreciate that man. Hope to have a next time tho 😅
Bro that's so lame.
You just talked to a human being.
Why do you consider that a win?
Personally I don't even talk to local fbbs.
Why?
Because I already know all of them from Instagram.
Many of them you can even go from their Instagram to their page where you can directly send them a DM on WhatsApp.
And they'll answer in a couple of minutes.
So yeah as I already said before this forum, fbbs.....you guys are all stuck in the 90s
Like an fbb is some godlike figure that is totally unachievable to be contacted.
Most of them lead quite humble lives.
Their life is basically dieting, the gym, and not much more.
What I would like is fbbs that have a more direct personality you know?
That don't get so defensive right away when you mention sex
I think that's the main issue with many fbbs.
They like to tease the whole world if they could.
But they don't want to go beyond that
That's why they stay single forever
Obviously nobody goes around asking random people to touch their arms as an opener; that was the very end of a ten-minute, super friendly conversation where the vibe was genuinely relaxed and open
I know but that was not my point. I'm happy for you, all good. But this is obviously not the way to talk to a "normal woman", what Trools said before. If she was a "normal woman" you would've never asked to feel her bicep.
I know but that was not my point. I'm happy for you, all good. But this is obviously not the way to talk to a "normal woman", what Trools said before. If she was a "normal woman" you would've never asked to feel her bicep.
Oh, well if you're talking specifically about the bicep touch request then yes, I obviously wouldn't do that with an "average" woman, but the "talk to a muscular woman like you've do with any other" thing is about treating them like actual people (showing respect, empathy...) and not some fantasy award. I appreciate you trying to clarify it tho
You misunderstood the whole thing. Trools said: "You just talk to women with muscles the same way as you talk to any other women". Well no, this is not the way I usually talk to other woman.
Bro be serious. Fuck off you have ever talked to a woman.
The key to the whole trolling game is that you have to keep your tall tales vaguely plausible. If you make them obviously absurd then nobody is going to take the bait.
Maybe next time keep it believable and try a story about how you watched a woman from behind a tree in your local park and followed her around the local corner store in a furtive manner. People would probably be more likely to bite.
You guys know the deal: finding genuinely muscular women out in the wild is rare enough, but living in a third-world country multiplies that scarcity by ten.
Today, while taking public transit, a legitimately jacked woman hopped on. I’m not talking about just fit or toned, she had serious off-season bodybuilder mass. After battling my own nerves for a second, I gathered the courage to shoot my shot and broke the ice: "Excuse me, sorry to bother you, but for how long have you been training?" To my surprise, the conversation just took off. She was super friendly and chill (she may be around 50). It turns out she was actually supposed to travel abroad years ago to represent our country in bodybuilding competitions, but had to pull out due to local political turmoil and didn't want to risk it. Nowadays she works as a personal trainer.
Best part is: Right before my stop, I impulsively asked if I could feel her flexed bicep, and she was totally cool with it and let me! I think keeping the whole conversation respectful and genuine earlier kept me from coming across as a creep.
She gave me her IG, which is strictly for her personal training business (she even followed me back), but honestly, I'm just riding the high of actually pushing past the fear and doing it. Considering the odds of running into an actual female bodybuilder around here, I just had to share the win with people who'd actually get it.