Wondering whether I can actually connect with muscular women I meet IRL

I find it weird to treat "muscular" women as a separate category, but I can't find a better way to express my thoughts...

Anyway

I find muscular female physiques attractive, very attractive, but my experience meeting muscular women has been largely negative, and it's making me question what really is this attraction for me.

I do try to meet new people, especially since I am looking for a partner, and I have had the opportunity to meet women that even here would be considered muscular/strong/impressive. A very small percentage of the people I've actually met in the last few years, but still, at least 6 instances.

On a personality level, I really did not click with any them. To the point that I never found myself interested in cultivating something with them (I'm not interested in casual sex, I am looking for something more serious)

In my limited experience I've always found these women falling into one (or more) of these categories:

1. Terribly vapid and materialistic

2. "I don't need no man" type of woman

3. "I'm an elite athlete, I only date elite athletes"

4. Emotionally immature with serious attachment issues

And it's very glaring how I've not had one exception to this rule. While instead I've been lucky to meet other women who are wonderful persons. (And just to be clear, I do find women with average healthy physiques attractive)

So I'm sitting here wondering... why do I find muscular women so attractive, if then they clearly don't end up being my type of person?

Anybody can relate to that and/or would like to share their thoughts about this? Have I just been unlucky so far?

I'm 29 yo if this can help give context

That's just women. The muscles are a hardware feature, but they're running the same OS.

Do stuff you enjoy and you'll naturally encounter people with similar interests and mindset. Going in looking for the muscles first isn't a high percentage play. Unless you've got a nice boat.

I am not sure but these problems affect a lot of women .and normally this does not matter there are a lot of women with the right mindset out there .but when you limit yourself to women with elite bodies then you will have a very hard time finding someone with the perfect body and mindset .in general most men don't have the luxury to be picky.

you already had way more success than most men. but these are the types of women who you would normally avoid if they didnt have big muscles. and you will either have to wait for the perfect woman to show up. and while I am not saying it's impossible Its very unlikely. or you can settle for a woman with a great personality that likes you but is not very strong and looks average

In general, you are going to meet women in the environment you live. That means mostly work, school, friends (and friends of friends) and sometimes the gym. If you’re social interactions, work and friends are not of a higher caliber, you are not likely to meet potential partners with solid personalities. For example, if you’re a doctor, you are likely to associate with other doctors, nurses, PAs etc who may have similar interests, intelligence and values as you have. If you are a doctor and you find a buff girl who is less educated, you will likely be disappointed with the lack of mutual interests. In some cases you may have fast hot sex but any deeper relationship is likely short lived. There are buff women across the entire social and economic spectrum. Many high quality, educated and confident women also aspire to be muscular. I agree that any FBB who’s major ambition in life is to be judged on a stage is more likely to be superficial but there are a lot of beautiful, strong and intelligent women as well (mostly in urban areas). Why we all find muscular women attractive is deeper and complex. I think there could be partly a genetic reason. Work on yourself and try to attract a buff woman from within your social sphere that shares many of your interests and values.