I have a long story that may help some people (see below) below but for those who want some "yes or no" type answers. Yes, I hooked up with multiple women that would fit right in on this site since my divorce. None were in "contest shape" or were "in the industry" but I dated very fit women including a couple powerlifters, a ju-jitsu practitioner, multiple athletic women that ran marathons or played in pickleball leagues, etc. None of them had the type of dreamy biceps that we love here but lots of flat stomachs, impressive legs, and even some "decent" biceps but nothing big sadly. Mostly small and cut. A few very strong women for sure.
The longer version:
After my divorce in 2022 I went on an insane dating app rampage (because dating apps did not exist when I got married back around 2007 lol).
I was about 46 and and did better at this point in my life than I absolutely every did before attracting women. I did my best to only date fit women with some exceptions and most were in the age range of 39-55. I'm weird with data to the extent that I kept a spreadsheet and did my best to capture everyone's height and used AI to load their pictures in to estimate their measurements and weight. I ultimately settled down and in my personal opinion her body belongs on this site but some may disagree, she certainly isn't in any kind of contest shape. I posted images in this thread earlier today and in the past: https://www.girlswithmuscle.com/forum/thread/...
Here is my AI's take on the data I gave it:
"Looking at this specific cut of data, the narrative is impossible to ignore. Out of the 48 women you dated post-separation, over 35% were Elite Fit athletes, lifters, and combat practitioners.
You didn't ease back into the dating pool; you ran a massive, high-speed stress test on the market to locate a very specific type of physical boundary. The lower half of this post-2022 list is filled with the immediate "exits" and "dealbreakers," while the absolute top is entirely dominated by women who possessed the structural integrity to hold your attention."
If it matters the only recognizable face I saw on the apps was Heather Darling and she did not match back with me (nor does she now look how some of us remember her looking in the 90s). I did see a few other body builders that I did not recognize but none would match with me.
Here is what I believe contributed to my success rate:
I'm 6'0" 182lbs, work out at home 2-3x a week, have the beginnings of abs from certain angles lol, 15" biceps while not big, some women think they are. Defined legs (played ice hockey on and off my whole live until about 5 years ago). In other words, in my age bracket I am in better shape than many other guys pushing 50 years old. I don't drink or do drugs, no beer gut, etc.
I have all my hair and keep it relatively longish but not the manbun or ponytail thing. My hair is gray + a beard so my AI tells me that is "gray fox" territory and some women my age like that.
I have a successful career and all that comes along with it. I am not rich by any means but I was able to afford to pay for dating but quite honestly that got very expensive and was not sustainable depending on the women. Some wanted very expensive dinners weekly, etc... I'm successful but I have expenses like everyone else so I could not keep up that pace, especially across multiple women at once. That said, women did not have to pay for me in any way ever.
I have hobbies and they are eclectic. I incubate and raise chickens, I recorded an album (wrote it, recorded every instrument, engineered it, etc.) and released it on streaming services. I dress the part... I give off an "indie rock" vibe for sure.
I have a modest family car but I have a 1999 Jeep Wrangler that I bought new in 1998. Could I buy something better? Sure. But it says something that I could, and do not imo.
I go out of my way to be kind, thoughtful, caring, I listen, and I'm a friend no matter what.
I had many apps going at once. Its a numbers game. Do the math. Men get very few bites or so I'm told. Women get hundreds or even thousands of guys hitting them up. I used Hinge, Bumble, eHarmony (where I met my fiancé, Tinder, Match, and others).
With all that said, I work hard to do those things and have those things and be those things. I lost everything in the divorce. At one point no wife, no job, and was hours away from losing the house all within a week. Keeping it together was a ton of effort and sleepless nights.
How I differentiated myself:
I pulled up in a vintage jeep with the top down in the summer. I dress with my own style. I was super nice and (in my own mind) funny. I let every women take the lead on any kind of intimacy. I was always super honest about my intentions with dating, what I was looking for, what level of commitment I could offer at various times, etc. I had hobbies. I am a great responsible dad according to my own kids. What I'm getting at is to some women, I was "full package" material compared to other men my age in the dating pool.
My advice: Don't be boring, don't be weird about muscles (until you know they can handle the topic), dont be a jerk to people. Take care of yourself and your body, give them something to want, and respect everyone because we are all in this together.
And I'm glad I didn't settle btw. When I met my fiancé I dumped all the dating apps within a couple days and she's the absolute best thing that has ever happened to me.
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I have a long story that may help some people (see below) below but for those who want some "yes or no" type answers. Yes, I hooked up with multiple women that would fit right in on this site since my divorce. None were in "contest shape" or were "in the industry" but I dated very fit women including a couple powerlifters, a ju-jitsu practitioner, multiple athletic women that ran marathons or played in pickleball leagues, etc. None of them had the type of dreamy biceps that we love here but lots of flat stomachs, impressive legs, and even some "decent" biceps but nothing big sadly. Mostly small and cut. A few very strong women for sure.
The longer version:
After my divorce in 2022 I went on an insane dating app rampage (because dating apps did not exist when I got married back around 2007 lol).
I was about 46 and and did better at this point in my life than I absolutely every did before attracting women. I did my best to only date fit women with some exceptions and most were in the age range of 39-55. I'm weird with data to the extent that I kept a spreadsheet and did my best to capture everyone's height and used AI to load their pictures in to estimate their measurements and weight. I ultimately settled down and in my personal opinion her body belongs on this site but some may disagree, she certainly isn't in any kind of contest shape. I posted images in this thread earlier today and in the past: https://www.girlswithmuscle.com/forum/thread/...
Here is my AI's take on the data I gave it:
"Looking at this specific cut of data, the narrative is impossible to ignore. Out of the 48 women you dated post-separation, over 35% were Elite Fit athletes, lifters, and combat practitioners.
You didn't ease back into the dating pool; you ran a massive, high-speed stress test on the market to locate a very specific type of physical boundary. The lower half of this post-2022 list is filled with the immediate "exits" and "dealbreakers," while the absolute top is entirely dominated by women who possessed the structural integrity to hold your attention."
If it matters the only recognizable face I saw on the apps was Heather Darling and she did not match back with me (nor does she now look how some of us remember her looking in the 90s). I did see a few other body builders that I did not recognize but none would match with me.
Here is what I believe contributed to my success rate:
With all that said, I work hard to do those things and have those things and be those things. I lost everything in the divorce. At one point no wife, no job, and was hours away from losing the house all within a week. Keeping it together was a ton of effort and sleepless nights.
How I differentiated myself:
I pulled up in a vintage jeep with the top down in the summer. I dress with my own style. I was super nice and (in my own mind) funny. I let every women take the lead on any kind of intimacy. I was always super honest about my intentions with dating, what I was looking for, what level of commitment I could offer at various times, etc. I had hobbies. I am a great responsible dad according to my own kids. What I'm getting at is to some women, I was "full package" material compared to other men my age in the dating pool.
My advice: Don't be boring, don't be weird about muscles (until you know they can handle the topic), dont be a jerk to people. Take care of yourself and your body, give them something to want, and respect everyone because we are all in this together.
And I'm glad I didn't settle btw. When I met my fiancé I dumped all the dating apps within a couple days and she's the absolute best thing that has ever happened to me.