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Radek - you sound like a dork. Go lift weights and stop complaining.
I've never made a single friend in the gym. Noone goes to the gym to meet people, this isn't the solution.
Not to mention working out was never fun for me anyways.
> > How am I supposed to know? There are tons of people that I was always friendly with, sometimes for years and they would just ghost me like I didn't exist. Both online and IRL. Once that happens enough times, you get really tired of being nice to everyone.
I'll be honest, mate. Not being rude just because you don't want people to isolate you sounds like not killing someone just because you don't want to go to prison.
If you're gonna be a grouch, you are adding yourself an extra social de-buff for no reason and for no benefit. Think about it, people don't think "wow, that guy is an asshole, I wonder what goes on in his heart, I'm gonna try to get to know him better". They're just gonna think "fuck that guy" and avoid you.
Also I know getting ghosted sucks really bad, but have you never ever ghosted anyone ever or been dull in replies to the point they gave up? Not even a random bum on the street asking you how's your day?
People have their own problems and limited time, and yeah, you were probably not special enough for them (no romantical interest, no financial interest, no great memories to bond over, etc.), but that does not make it necessarily your fault or their fault. I personally have 2 best friends who care about me (to an extent) and I still feel alone, as there are many things I can't communicate with them because they wouldn't understand (very different life experiences).
If what you seek is deep human connection, I think that's just very hard to find, especially if you're not exactly normal (as in a regular healthy stable person with a normal past, normal thoughts, normal interests etc.).
But run this experiment in your head, if you were to magically meet all 8.000.000.000 people, do you truly think absolutely 0 of them would be a match for you? You know that's absurd. And I think the difference between "very difficult" and "impossible" is hope.
Also, trying to paint me as the villain here based on TWO posts where I was rude to someone on GWM is absurd. As if that proves I'm some miserable cunt IRL all the time.
I bet you're a saint and never swear anyone off.
Very sorry to hear that you feel this way. There are unfortunately many people who feel like this. And yeah, the world is probably not getting better soon. Stick in there
For some people, it doesn't take much to push them into such a state. It could have been some incident that happened in his life, or he simply had too much to drink (it is New Year's).
It's pretty easy to make another account. If he decides to come back, then he's welcome, of course. If not, then that's his prerogative.
Then it’s like you said. You’re better off dead
Also, we don't condone comments of this nature. This user received a short ban (1st offense).
Depression is real. I’ve dealt with it for a long time. Even when everything looks hunky dory on the surface people can be struggling hard. Sometimes it’s hard to be positive about your life no matter what you have. I’m by no means a meathead I’m definitely a self professed schmo to the core but I will say this… lifting heavy weights does release something that does promote positivity. My advice go to the gym.
Life has been declining even as back as 2016, but really accelerated ever since covid. What they did with covid + the ramifications that came after is unforgivable.
It's a matter of perspective. Life sucks for a lot of people, but it is always a choice to give up. You need to find something to hope for, no matter what it is. Be hopeful for something. And you can't wait for things to change, because being complacent means that they never will. You need to be the catalyst to enact change in your life.
I've struggled with depression for years and I know that being told you have to put effort into making changes is a hard pill to swallow, especially when you're ready to give up entirely. But that's what needs to happen. Life can become a great thing if you work at it.
I really hope that he's able to face his struggles and that this was nothing more than a moment of weakness. I realize he was lashing out at people that didn't deserve it. I'm glad that most handled it with maturity. In a prior thread talking to him, I'd urged much of the same and also urged therapy. He was generally resistant. We can point him in the right direction, but we can't make his choices for him.
As for any user here that deals with depression or other mental health struggles, never measure your life by your bad days. Keep going even when it sucks and keep working on making it better. You aren't responsible for feeling down, but you are responsible for always trying to make each day better than the last.
May everyone have a 2026 that's better than what came before.
This is someone who is in pain. I don't view his lashing out as venom directed at those responding in this thread. Instead I see it as frustration and venting by someone who is going through a very tough time. While it is human nature to want to help him fix this, sometimes the best thing we can do is just to listen without judgment.
I hope he can find peace and overcome the challenges life has put on him.
May all of us have a new year that brings greater success, peace, and joy than we ever dreamed possible.
I have a friend just like the OP. In fact, I almost thought it was him except he would never have an interest in any GWM, although one never knows... He who protests most, blah, blah.
He leads a life on paper that most would envy (well paid, can afford nice things, decent looking...) but holy shit with the negativity. Any attempted compliment is met with an immediate self-depreciation (not the funny kind either).
"Hey, your 50 and you've got a face and head of hair that looks like a TV news anchor."
"Lot of good it does me... Women say they want a man who's 6' and I'm 5'7."
"your attitude is 4'9. That's what turns women off."
I've known this dude since HS when he was at least a bit less negative. Ironically, I envied his social circle back then because I transfered to a different HS and knew no one. Loyalty and shared experiences is what keeps me around, not what his attitude has become.
I've set him up on dates, set him up in conversations with flirty waitresses when we go out, all of this falls flat on its face. I am ALWAYS the one who'll make the effort to get his ass out of his house to the extent I ALWAYS drive him. (He has a car and drives himself anywhere.) He's the first one to say "separate checks" the moment we sit down, but I see him behave the same way with others, so I don't take it personal any more than I expect a dog to solve an algebra equation.
It's just obvious that he'd have a helluva impossible time making a friend as an adult. Not surprisingly, he's an engineer, so he'll build you an Excel formula to show why it's everyone else's fault. I don't know what I can do, except just keep being a friend and hope he'd at least come to me if he started getting serious about ending it all.
The guy who talked about being thankful he doesn't have to shit in the woods like his ancestors actually has a good point... Lacking gratitude and scale seems to be a common thread I find amongst those who self pity. But we live in an ever-shittier world that discourages humility, which is one of many reasons why it seems worse than 1985, 1990, 2000, 2016, 2017, etc. And yes, anyone with a functional brain (so maybe 2% of politicians) could see what Covid mandates were doing to people in the name of slowing an engineered goddamn flu that was eventually going to kill whomever it killed anyway.
Well, good luck to all of us in 2026.
I've set him up on dates, set him up in conversations with flirty waitresses when we go out
I am ALWAYS the one who'll make the effort to get his ass out of his house to the extent I ALWAYS drive him.
I wish there were more friends like you
The guy who talked about being thankful he doesn't have to shit in the woods like his ancestors actually has a good point... Lacking gratitude and scale seems to be a common thread I find amongst those who self pity.
Not to play devil's advocate here but,
Love, friendship and belonging are quite essential human needs. Being able to shit in a room inside your house rather than in the garden is a matter of convenience and humans have been living without indoors bathrooms for thousands of years.
To give a more extreme example, imagine you're in prison. Someone would say: "you should be happy and express gratitude because you got food, water, a bathroom inside your room, you don't have to work for these things, and on top of that in the medieval times prisoners would have way worse conditions".
You can be grateful for all the things you've got and still feel sad, unfulfilled and empty if you only check the bottom slab of Maslow's hierarchy of needs (breathing, food, water, shelter). And having A LOT of one thing does not necessarily compensate for the lack of other.
Like most people would probably chose a small cozy home and a family rather than a humongous mansion and emptiness.
You can be grateful for all the things you've got and still feel sad, unfulfilled and empty if you only check the bottom slab of Maslow's hierarchy of needs (breathing, food, water, shelter). And having A LOT of one thing does not necessarily compensate for the lack of other.
Like most people would probably chose a small cozy home and a family rather than a humongous mansion and emptiness.
I do understand what you're saying.. It's not all material things and comfort. But what I'm saying is that however empty someone feels, there should be a baseline appreciation that you were not born into starvation, forced labor, with a physical/mental handicap, etc.
I realize that doesn't solve being alone. Gallows humor is real. Slaves at least have the company of fellow slaves. Prisoners have an occasional laugh with other prisoner.
More than likely if you're posting on an internet site that's loaded with thirst traps, you're probably a free person, not a 90lb peasant farmer in North Korea. That means you DO have the ability to reinvent yourself. You aren't behind bars or owned by someone else. If you want to make extra money to change your location you probably can. Tour guide on that rides on a bus and points out celebrity houses (or explains old castles) is more/less an entry level job and you'll meet and tell corny jokes to 100 strangers a day.
If you're a man, there are women who aren't traditionally attractive (often they're considered too big AND tall in my experience) who would love a man in their lives. One of my friend's problems is that he won't even CONSIDER a woman over 5'5 or on the heavy side. I'm not saying get married, but for shit's sake, just dating anyone makes a man more attractive.
In my olden days of late 90s internet dating I was told to change my profile to divorced rather than single.. Women see a guy in his late 20s or 30s who's never been married and they think he's damaged goods, not just someone who's spent too much time on career, school, etc.
And so..don't be that sorry loser who needs physical connection with other people to feel alive, you are a complete package on your own and trust me bro there's nothing out there 80% of us feel as you do so meeting up with another person would actually double the problem just be yourself the law of attraction would definitely work for you
Whatever, you know nothing about me.