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No, it’s not cheating it’s just a fetish that you are not getting from her anymore. Since you are MARRIED it’s safe to asume that you still love her regardless her body. That being said, I would recommend telling her you affection to muscle women, remember that communication is key. Now, she might get paranoid and legitimately think that you could go to the gym a hit some muscular girls as your intention, or will try to Please her husband with this fascination. Depending on how you chose your words it could go either way. A third option of her not minding you going while she doesn’t get bothered with that idea is hard to believe
I have just been thinking about this lately, and I thought I'd come here to ask my fellow female muscle lovers. First of all, I've been happily married a long time now, and have never even thought about actually physically cheating on my wife. But at the same time, I've been attracted to strong girls since I was a child and I don't think I'll ever be able to turn off that switch in my brain.
In fact, one of the things that attracted me to my wife was the fact that she was strong. She was never muscle girl, but she was athletic. When we were dating, she would pick me up in a cradling motion and carry me to bed. We'd also wrestle and I'd feel her very strong legs. Anyway, all those things turned me on. Even back then however, I still visited sites like these.
Now as we've been married, her strength and physical conditioning is off and on. She used to go to the gym a lot, and would show me her muscles and I'd express to her how much I loved it. We'd even arm wrestle and I'd have a really tough time winning. But she's now in the phase of not going to the gym and is getting "softer". So, I've been throwing hints here and there about her getting back to the gym. Even suggested coming to the gym with me so we could work out together. In the meantime, I get my muscle girl fix from these sites. I should also mention that my wife actually does not know of my female muscle love. She knows I like her muscles, but she doesn't know the extent of it.
All that said, I'm conflicted about whether this is considered cheating even if I have no intention of physically meeting up with any of these women in real life, nor do I have any interest in paying for a session. If I were single, I definitely would have paid for a session though.
Anyone else in a relationship committed relationship with a non-muscle girl?
Cheating may not necessarily be the right word for it, but it's wrong to be honest. Why do you think chicks freak out when a guy looks at another woman in public? Because he's burning a mental image into his brain that will be there later, and that's unfair to her for him to have high standards on how she looks - meanwhile, who knows how that woman acts as a person.
Anytime a person actively engages in fantasizing and looking at other people, they're being unfaithful in their heart. You may not want to hear that, but it is what it is. Sorry man...
Cheating may not necessarily be the right word for it, but it's wrong to be honest. Why do you think chicks freak out when a guy looks at another woman in public? Because he's burning a mental image into his brain that will be there later, and that's unfair to her for him to have high standards on how she looks - meanwhile, who knows how that woman acts as a person.
Anytime a person actively engages in fantasizing and looking at other people, they're being unfaithful in their heart. You may not want to hear that, but it is what it is. Sorry man...
Ok, I get your point, but here's the thing about that---as I mentioned, I've had this fetish since I was literally a child. As in, when I was in elementary school I knew stronger girls excited me. Throughout my dating life, and until I got married, I never dated a "real" muscle girl. And I actually don't know that I regret not dating a big muscle girl because they're not the sort of girls I'd want to be in a relationship with. That probably sounds weird lol
For me, it's strictly a secret fantasy. Sort of a forbidden fruit, and that probably why it excites me. It might be wrong, but what about the fact that I've never actually acted on it, nor plan to? I mean, even the thought of paying for a session to physically live out that fantasy for just one hour is a line I wouldn't even consider crossing. That's my dilemma, since I know this is not something I can just easily quit cold turkey.
No. Cheating is the act of sexual intercourse with a partner other than your partner.
If you mean the fact that you think of a GWM while you sleep with your partner, again, not cheating.
At the end of the day, it is you who make the call on your own actions.
Do you see it as cheating? Does she/he? Does it impact your intimacy?
If it does, then decide which means more to you in your life.
Hope this helps :-)
It's not cheating, or even wrong, it's just a private garden that you have, and perhaps you could let the key accessible to your wife to enter in, with, yes communication. Now depending on your perception of morality, monotheistic religious concepts or societies can be very judgemental about partnership's exclusivity, but you shouldn't worry about it, only to be more open to your wife, with delicateness, patience, she married you for all the aspect of your personality, perhaps she might have already an idea. We all have fantasies, for us it's this, for other it's different and it's better to accept and negoticace them, instead of being trapped in a conflict with yourself, that can affect your mood your perception of yourself, and pollute your couple.
I think nobody other than you and her can answer that question. Everybody thinks differently of what is "cheating", as you can already see in this thread. Some may think just thinking / fantasizing about other women is cheating, other define it solely as intercourse. So, if you want an honest answer, these are the question you need answers to:
Do you see it as cheating? Does she/he? Does it impact your intimacy?
I have just been thinking about this lately, and I thought I'd come here to ask my fellow female muscle lovers. First of all, I've been happily married a long time now, and have never even thought about actually physically cheating on my wife. But at the same time, I've been attracted to strong girls since I was a child and I don't think I'll ever be able to turn off that switch in my brain.
In fact, one of the things that attracted me to my wife was the fact that she was strong. She was never muscle girl, but she was athletic. When we were dating, she would pick me up in a cradling motion and carry me to bed. We'd also wrestle and I'd feel her very strong legs. Anyway, all those things turned me on. Even back then however, I still visited sites like these.
Now as we've been married, her strength and physical conditioning is off and on. She used to go to the gym a lot, and would show me her muscles and I'd express to her how much I loved it. We'd even arm wrestle and I'd have a really tough time winning. But she's now in the phase of not going to the gym and is getting "softer". So, I've been throwing hints here and there about her getting back to the gym. Even suggested coming to the gym with me so we could work out together. In the meantime, I get my muscle girl fix from these sites. I should also mention that my wife actually does not know of my female muscle love. She knows I like her muscles, but she doesn't know the extent of it.
All that said, I'm conflicted about whether this is considered cheating even if I have no intention of physically meeting up with any of these women in real life, nor do I have any interest in paying for a session. If I were single, I definitely would have paid for a session though.
Anyone else in a relationship committed relationship with a non-muscle girl?
1) Only you and your partner(s) determine what is "cheating" within the context of your relationship.
2) I do not think it's "cheating" to fantasize about other women. In fact, I would argue that it's healthy to fantasize about a wide variety of things. But also, this is up to you and your partner.
3) I do, however, think it's flawed not to share the extent of your muscle lust with your partner. It's not that you're cheating on her. It's that you're cheating yourself out of potentially taking your relationship to a whole new level, by virtue of her wanting to encourage and indulge your interests. If you wanted, you could really unlock something pretty magical here.
From my perspective it's not cheating and I would add it helps in the relationship
I got arranged marriage to a normal girl. In a conventional sense she is pretty but to me she is not. For the first months when we had sex I could not get off. Seriously, it was a very tense time for me and for her. Then one day we were doing it and I imagined Britt Miller was next to me flexing and I imagined myself feeling her bicep. Immediately I exploded. We were both very happy. Since then we have been married 10+ years and have sex regularly. I use this site as inspiration and we have a good sex life. Not all of us can be lucky to get a gwm as a partner. Life goes on, you need to adjust. If I don't come to gwm and get my fix then maybe I will be tempted to cheat. This keeps me on the straight and narrow. Plus it's good for your mental health.
if one cant share the good the bad and the ugly in a comitted relationship i don't see what the point is..but thats just me...im a loyal dog type and it hasnt gotten me very far tbh so not one to expound advice...but a clean conscience is there so thats pretty cool.. one way of putting it is that from your side there is faithfulness as in you would never cheat, and you have the right to understand this part of you deeper, what complexes or inferiority complexes there may be.. but its also an opportunity for the other side to get over insecurity issues if there are any..plus you can always bring a third perspective into the equation with a mature couple counselor....or you can go in for some type of therapy maybe jungian to explore this kink and maybe get to the bottom of it...but you are the one to gauge if the partner is into inner work stuff so dont take this as advice and it may not be fair to drag her into something that she might not be ready for or find overwhelming. be kind to yourself and others...happiness lies in making others happy
From my perspective it's not cheating and I would add it helps in the relationship
I got arranged marriage to a normal girl. In a conventional sense she is pretty but to me she is not. For the first months when we had sex I could not get off. Seriously, it was a very tense time for me and for her. Then one day we were doing it and I imagined Britt Miller was next to me flexing and I imagined myself feeling her bicep. Immediately I exploded. We were both very happy. Since then we have been married 10+ years and have sex regularly. I use this site as inspiration and we have a good sex life. Not all of us can be lucky to get a gwm as a partner. Life goes on, you need to adjust. If I don't come to gwm and get my fix then maybe I will be tempted to cheat. This keeps me on the straight and narrow. Plus it's good for your mental health.
Interesting you say that because a lot of the time when we have sex, it's the images of my fanstasy girls that's in my head. So, that's sort of why I need sites like these. I would feel bad if it was all the time though, but it's not. As I mentioned, she used to work out a lot, so when her body and muscles felt harder and stronger, she was enough to get me going. It's times when she hadn't worked out enough and she's softer that I need external inspiration.
Regarding being lucky enough to have a gwm as a partner. Perhaps I'm lying to myself, but in my head I've never thought I really wanted that as a life partner. Because in real life, I'm not at all submissive. I never thought I actually want to be with someone who immediately looks and is physically dominant. Or where people would automatically believe "she's the boss". That's why for me, it's always stayed in a fantasy rhelm. So I fear that if I explicitly shared it with my wife, that I secretly fantasize about the idea of being physically dominated, perhaps it might changed our relationship and I don't know how I'd feel about that.
I guess it's just fear of the unknown for me.
You are right, we have to separate the fantasy from the reality. In my fantasy I want a girl who can lift me with one arm but in reality even Amazonaka would not be able to do that. Plus in reality I do not want Amazonka as my partner.
So I think this stuff just needs to be in fantasy realm and only be used for sexual purposes. If I don't fantasize about this and stop because it's cheating then I think I might get so needy that I might cheat in real life.
Exactly right. So, I tell my wife about it, show her what my fantasy girls look like. But then she realizes that she'd never be strong enough to be that fantasy that gets me excited. Then she starts feeling inadequate, even if I then tell her it's not a big deal? I mean, while I'm not at all the biggest or strongest guy around, I'm pretty fit and work out often. I know there would be quite a few GWM on this site that are stronger than me---with all the PEDs and insane dedication to the craft---but they are rare in real life. That rarity is actually part of the appeal to me.
But yes, I wouldn't want to be physically dominated as my normal daily reality. In fact, I've imagined that if I was in a relationship a gwm who was big and strong enough to really do the things I fantasize about, my guess is that I'd be in bliss for maybe a short while. After that, reality would set in that it was no longer a fantasy, but real life. The general public would know she's physically the boss in the relationship and no longer a secret. At that point, I likely wouldn't find it so sexy anymore once the novelty wears off.
So I guess I'll just keep this my own secret then. Thanks everyone for the input!
Just remember, "cheating" is more than a physical act...
Jesus said: "Ye have heard that it was said to them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery.
But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her, hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." - Matthew 5:27-28
Not a popular opinion, but yes, I'd say it's a FORM of cheating. Lusting after any woman on the internet is a form if it. Not as bad as sleeping with another woman, but in my mind it's not good... And this is coming from somebody who has also had a muscle fetish since he was a kid and is trying to stop. It ain't easy.
I've dropped hints to my gf about liking strength and fitness, but did not outright tell her the extent of it, or the fact that I frequent sites like GWM. I don't feel great about it, but don't consider it cheating. That said I know that I will probably never be able to get with a muscular girl, nor do I want to be long-term committed to one.
Heck, I've almost always had to imagine a strong woman or hot female strength scene to be able to finish. It is what it is, gf and I like the sex and each other, and I can see us having happy lives without ever needing to bring it up.
We have micro cheating now. I learned this term all too well this year. Conversing with another female outside your marriage, disclosing things about unhappiness in your marriage qualifies as micro cheating. I’ve done it through a cam site we’re all familiar with and I paid a price. Even though it was only an online thing, if you can’t tell your spouse about someone it’s cheating in their eyes. What made it even worse was Instagram messages with the model that sealed my fate. Be careful about what you do online is all I’m saying. Your spouse might not see this as innocent as we try to play it off as.
We have micro cheating now. I learned this term all too well this year. Conversing with another female outside your marriage, disclosing things about unhappiness in your marriage qualifies as micro cheating. I’ve done it through a cam site we’re all familiar with and I paid a price. Even though it was only an online thing, if you can’t tell your spouse about someone it’s cheating in their eyes. What made it even worse was Instagram messages with the model that sealed my fate. Be careful about what you do online is all I’m saying. Your spouse might not see this as innocent as we try to play it off as.
micro cheating is a wild term. I guess i probably would draw the line at interacting with another girl because I'm attracted to them (or doing sessions for example). Till it's a photo or video, for me it's an extension of my imagination.
Let me clarify. It’s not just looking at photos. It’s messaging them. People your spouse doesn’t know. The models on this site and HBC. They know you and you know them. Before I would even justify a session as long as there was no sex. But it’s much less than that. That email sent just to book the session is cheating. >
micro cheating is a wild term. I guess i probably would draw the line at interacting with another girl because I'm attracted to them (or doing sessions for example). Till it's a photo or video, for me it's an extension of my imagination.
To your question, it really depends on your wife's POV. If she thinks it's cheating then it is. But if not, then no. Every person is different with what they'll be comfortable with and what crosses the line.
Anyone else in a relationship committed relationship with a non-muscle girl?
I've been married for 13 years. My wife is more petite but works out a bit and I can feel she has developed some muscle which is a turn on. However, I don't think she'll ever be committed enough to really develop although she jokes about it sometimes. Honestly, it's a bit of a problem for me as I regret not having a chance to date someone really muscular. Just this past week I was visiting family on my own without my wife and went to a gym where there was a well developed woman. She was in great shape, tall with long hair and her arms were probably 14 inches. She was wearing a sports bra and I could see her whole upper body. Her abs were visible. She noticed me too and I wanted to ask her out. But I stopped myself due to being married. I'm still thinking about her though. I had another opportunity a couple years ago as well. Maybe it's mid-life crisis but I really regret not being more picky physically. I still find my wife attractive but I really wish I had a do-over.
I've had 5 or 6 sessions. At the best one, I thought we really connected and it seemed she was looking for someone to date - she was asking me what I was doing for lunch the next day and I walked her back to her car for 20 minutes. I regretted at that time too thinking if I had just put myself out there more when I was dating, I could have dated muscular women. There was one muscular woman I met once - she had more of a wrestler's build but with abs. I did flirt with her and she seemed to be receptive but when I asked her out she said she had a boyfriend.
I have told my wife about my fetish (she actually encouraged me to do sessions - although this was before we were married). However, I don't think she knows the extent of it and, besides, I don't think she would really want to get into it anyway other than just working out a couple times per week to stay fit.
Has anyone who is/has been married "come out" to your wife about the extent of your time on GWM or fantasies?
I never thought I actually want to be with someone who immediately looks and is physically dominant
Also, to this point, just because a woman has muscles doesn't mean they want to be physically dominant. They're still women at the end of the day. Sure, maybe some do but I would guess it's no different than the general population.
Just this past week I was visiting family on my own without my wife and went to a gym where there was a well developed woman. She was in great shape, tall with long hair and her arms were probably 14 inches. She was wearing a sports bra and I could see her whole upper body. Her abs were visible. She noticed me too and I wanted to ask her out.
Kids into muscular women have it good I think, a lot more fit muscled girls out there now.
Also, to this point, just because a woman has muscles doesn't mean they want to be physically dominant. They're still women at the end of the day. Sure, maybe some do but I would guess it's no different than the general population.
It's like a Venn diagram of two very small populations (is muscular, likes to dominate) with even smaller overlap. A girl that is both muscular and likes being dominant is basically a unicorn.
Kids into muscular women have it good I think, a lot more fit muscled girls out there now.
Yeah definitely. Although still rare, it's 10x better than it was 20 years ago when I was in my 20s.
Just remember, "cheating" is more than a physical act...
Jesus said: "Ye have heard that it was said to them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery.
But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her, hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." - Matthew 5:27-28
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I have just been thinking about this lately, and I thought I'd come here to ask my fellow female muscle lovers. First of all, I've been happily married a long time now, and have never even thought about actually physically cheating on my wife. But at the same time, I've been attracted to strong girls since I was a child and I don't think I'll ever be able to turn off that switch in my brain.
In fact, one of the things that attracted me to my wife was the fact that she was strong. She was never muscle girl, but she was athletic. When we were dating, she would pick me up in a cradling motion and carry me to bed. We'd also wrestle and I'd feel her very strong legs. Anyway, all those things turned me on. Even back then however, I still visited sites like these.
Now as we've been married, her strength and physical conditioning is off and on. She used to go to the gym a lot, and would show me her muscles and I'd express to her how much I loved it. We'd even arm wrestle and I'd have a really tough time winning. But she's now in the phase of not going to the gym and is getting "softer". So, I've been throwing hints here and there about her getting back to the gym. Even suggested coming to the gym with me so we could work out together. In the meantime, I get my muscle girl fix from these sites. I should also mention that my wife actually does not know of my female muscle love. She knows I like her muscles, but she doesn't know the extent of it.
All that said, I'm conflicted about whether this is considered cheating even if I have no intention of physically meeting up with any of these women in real life, nor do I have any interest in paying for a session. If I were single, I definitely would have paid for a session though.
Anyone else in a relationship committed relationship with a non-muscle girl?