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Do you ever feel "guilty" for having this fetish/attraction?

Feb 29, 2024 - edited Feb 29, 2024 - permalink

Honestly I do, I know if any of anyone in my life knew that I’m into super huge muscular women I’d most likely be labeled as a weirdo in their eyes. I mean being attracted to women looking like this is pretty far from the norm

tamarok
Mar 06, 2024 - permalink

There is nothing to feel guilty about. It just makes it more complicated finding elements of this in a real woman. I’d love if I could have gf who worked out, amongst other shared interests, but it does reduce the size of the pool of opportunities.

I am generally comfortable telling people I like fit and muscular women, partly because I workout myself.

Mar 07, 2024 - permalink

Honestly I do, I know if any of anyone in my life knew that I’m into super huge muscular women I’d most likely be labeled as a weirdo in their eyes. I mean being attracted to women looking like this is pretty far from the norm

I don't understand how any concept of "norm" is salient to a bizarre life full of irrational people that invest a lot of time attempting to convince others that they are rational. We are driven by emotion...

The phrase "labelled as a wierdo" is basically stereotyping someone as a meaningless concept. Why does it matter what other people think? How do you know what they think (unless they tell you)?

Mar 07, 2024 - permalink

I'm actually proud to be into a girl's strength and hard work. However, since it is considered to be a "fetish", I keep it a secret until I'm close with someone.

Mar 08, 2024 - edited Mar 08, 2024 - permalink

I can understand ekkijo's concerns to some degree, although in this day and age, it is far more acceptable than many years ago.

My mother found my secret stash of far less muscular women, than we see here. It was my fondest treasure. I was in my mid teens. Clippings from magazines, circus women, and a magazine of the old WPC "Women's Physical Culture Club". I had to wait weeks for that incredible magazine, sent from the Netherlands and it was expensive for that time. This was late 1960s.

My own mother called me a weirdo, thought there was something seriously wrong with me. It made me question my own feelings. Why am I like this? Seeing a high school girl, with buffed arms, brushing her hair, drove me crazy. I never approached any of the 5 or 6 buffed girls in high school for two reasons. They were out of my league, simply because they had muscular arms. Secondly, I was afraid to ever comment on their muscles because I feared, they would call me a weirdo!

In a strange twist to this, my sister one year younger than me, had muscular arms, with developed biceps. She was the only one I ever confided in about girls with muscles. My mother actually acted like she was ashamed of my sister because she thought muscles on girls was ugly. Times have changed for the better. That's for damn sure!!! Now I not only let my feelings be known in relationships, I only pursue buffed women.

Mar 08, 2024 - permalink

I actually like it about myself. Muscular women still have to deal with lots of shitty comments about their bodies and I happily disagree with those A-holes. It's a bit inconvenient when it comes to relationships. Haven't dated a buff woman yet, so craving for something my GF can't give me sucks. I'm really thankful my ex gave me permission to go have a muscle worship session with somebody else. Right now I'm single, but I don't see myself attracting a buff lady, as I'm a fat dude.

The only time I feel guilty about being into muscular women is when I can't take my eyes off one in public, especially in the gym.

Mar 09, 2024 - permalink

Swimsuit, lingerie models, porn stars, they're a dime a dozen. Buff women just have that "thing" that sets them apart....to me, the sex appeal is just off the charts compared to women without muscle, maybe because they exude a badass confidence. I feel the opposite of guilty because I believe these women want to be noticed for the hard work they put in. I certainly appreciate it. And when some of these women get hate for going the OF/nudity route, that's bullshit.

Mar 09, 2024 - permalink

@Kingkuster……..well said….I totally agree

Mar 09, 2024 - edited Mar 09, 2024 - permalink

Swimsuit, lingerie models, porn stars, they're a dime a dozen. Buff women just have that "thing" that sets them apart....to me, the sex appeal is just off the charts compared to women without muscle, maybe because they exude a badass confidence. I feel the opposite of guilty because I believe these women want to be noticed for the hard work they put in. I certainly appreciate it. And when some of these women get hate for going the OF/nudity route, that's bullshit.

@Kingkuster...I agree with you and lpc. A muscular woman is so much hotter than a typical beauty queen. From my limited experience, a buffed woman definitely enjoys being appreciated. They worked hard for their development. Maybe it's too strong a word but I've worshipped, treasured, the few I've been with.

Mar 09, 2024 - permalink

No.

Mar 09, 2024 - permalink

Never...

Mar 09, 2024 - edited Mar 09, 2024 - permalink

Feelings of guilt can intensify pleasure (if you’re wondering how this can be true, do a search on the literature, we don’t need to get into it here). Let’s consider: for some around here, maybe feeling guilty is a part of enjoying a fetish?

arl
Mar 09, 2024 - permalink

I can understand ekkijo's concerns to some degree, although in this day and age, it is far more acceptable than many years ago.

My mother found my secret stash of far less muscular women, than we see here. It was my fondest treasure. I was in my mid teens. Clippings from magazines, circus women, and a magazine of the old WPC "Women's Physical Culture Club". I had to wait weeks for that incredible magazine, sent from the Netherlands and it was expensive for that time. This was late 1960s.

My own mother called me a weirdo, thought there was something seriously wrong with me. It made me question my own feelings. Why am I like this? Seeing a high school girl, with buffed arms, brushing her hair, drove me crazy. I never approached any of the 5 or 6 buffed girls in high school for two reasons. They were out of my league, simply because they had muscular arms. Secondly, I was afraid to ever comment on their muscles because I feared, they would call me a weirdo!

In a strange twist to this, my sister one year younger than me, had muscular arms, with developed biceps. She was the only one I ever confided in about girls with muscles. My mother actually acted like she was ashamed of my sister because she thought muscles on girls was ugly. Times have changed for the better. That's for damn sure!!! Now I not only let my feelings be known in relationships, I only pursue buffed women.

Same here. My mom “found” my stash of fbb mags under my bed: Rather than feel humiliated, I should have been outraged. WTF was she doing snooping around in my room?

Mar 09, 2024 - permalink

Feelings of guilt can intensify pleasure (if you’re wondering how this can be true, do a search on the literature, we don’t need to get into it here). Let’s consider: for some around here, maybe feeling guilty is a part of enjoying a fetish?

Good point! 👍 Catholic's have been doing this for centuries! 🤣

Mar 09, 2024 - permalink

There's something about tyranny in feelings of guilt (unless we actually did something harmful). Guilt often comes from an expectation of being judged negatively by others (a facet of tyranny). It doesn't matter if the others are right or wrong, being judged is unpleasant. Guilt is a manner of built-in boundary system humans have. It works to reduce unpleasant social experiences (less social conflict aids survival). Guilt is not universal, however. Some have almost none (and no moral compass) while in others, it's overdeveloped and needs to be relaxed (that was an issue for me in the past).

For this interest... or any interest... If indulging is harmful in a tangible way (not just as a distraction or hobby), guilt is probably good. It can interrupt spiraling into obsession/addiction. Otherwise, it's probably not useful to feel guilt about any interest (unless you fear that it can become an addiction and unhealthy... some have to consider this with any interest they follow more than casually).

Mar 11, 2024 - permalink

I'm actually proud to be into a girl's strength and hard work. However, since it is considered to be a "fetish", I keep it a secret until I'm close with someone.

I think that’s gonna be my philosophy with this whole attraction too. Maybe I’ll open up more regardless of whether I actually do get a gf that lifts but obviously I’m not gonna talk about muscular women 24/7 lol

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