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I've been way outta that closet since 7th grade.
Man I wish I was open way earlier. Ever since I opened up it just made me realize that I have great friends that would never ridicule me for something so ridiculously normal. It's actually improved my relationship with my close friends because it was basically the only secret I kept. And now my friends will randomly send me pictures of muscular women whenever they stumble upon them.
A few friends probably have some idea. Wife knows and works out with me. But really, I don't get the whole idea of being "out"? Do guys really just sit around and talk about who they'd like to fuck? Because I don't, and my friends don't. And I really don't care or want to know.
I'm not against this thread. As anonymous internet chatter it's fun. But I don't sit down face-to-face with plutonic friends and talk sex... Nor do I feel the least bit like I'm missing out on anything because of that.
Man I wish I was open way earlier. Ever since I opened up it just made me realize that I have great friends that would never ridicule me for something so ridiculously normal. It's actually improved my relationship with my close friends because it was basically the only secret I kept. And now my friends will randomly send me pictures of muscular women whenever they stumble upon them.
The coolest thing - apart from having a loving wife who fully indulges all (ok, most of) my bullshit - is having so many girls around me who are all eager to show off their muscles/strength, from the neighbor lady to my assistant. The fact that I have been able to carve out a living within the sphere of what I love is better than icing on any cake.
Very open about my preference for GWM.
My partner is a GWM (crossfitter), my friends point out buff babes to me when one muscle goddess waddles past.
It wasn't always the case, and I hate that I actively booed them in the past when it was still kept quiet.
Love training with a GWM as well.
I don't hide it but I don't volunteer the information either. If it never comes up I'm perfectly fine with that. But if it did I'd give my honest opinion.
Exactly.
If someone asks I don't hide it, but I don't make a point about shouting my sexual ideal into the ether.
I never explicitly told my family, but I think they secretly know, since they caught me a few times in my teens watching FBB shows and trying to hide muscle pics on the family computer (before I had my own PC)
I told a few of my closer friends, and none of them even bat an eye over it.
The first person I told originally was my sister, when I was in junior high school. After our conversations, she tried to help me find girls with muscle in high school and actually got two dates for me.😁 Both girls had awesome arms...not pretty but all I cared about was muscle and they both had biceps. It wasn't until my mid 20s that I began to slowly come out.
I'm like a few others here in the sense that I, personally don't walk around advertising it, because that's needless. Where I'm slightly different is: if It comes up, ("What female body type do you prefer?..." etc) I'm faaar from shy! So yes, I'm very proud but no, I don't beat my chest about it to our grand planet that's known as Earth.
Even with that said, considering that my fiancé is easily and visibly more fit than the average woman--or man, yet still without quite being a bodybuilder, I'm sure when we're out-and-about together, during the Summer months (I live in the Northeastern United States) random strangers can tell and that's if they care or are thinking about such a thing when looking at me.... I don't check for stares because I don't care. And Hell, our tattoos and piercings get more attention (even in this day and age 😩) than our muscles where I reside. ...I live in a weird place...
Also--I may have mentioned this on another thread; wether in images or the forum escapes me currently--I have only been in serious domestic/romantic relationships with athletic/muscular women my entire adult life, so it's not like those who know me personally or publicly have to guess, lol. It's really just a part--be it a proud part--of who I am and not something that separates me, for better or for worse, from those around me.
TL;DR: I wouldn't mind if the world knew, because I'm proud to show it, but it should be axiomatic. And I never express the subject to those around me in any manner as to gain attention, because in the end I never let such a thing matter too much in my life.
I don’t really broadcast it but there’s definitely a small amount of friends and colleagues who probably can tell I like a bit of muscle. So far, if anyone does say to me, “you like a muscle woman don’t you?”, I don’t deny it, but I suppose I downplay it a smudge.
“Oh yeah muscle can look great on a woman, but I don’t ONLY like muscle women, I like all sorts”.
Which is also true
my history is all over.
I'm fortunate now that my activity online isn't as public as it used to be in the earlier IG and FB days. I can usually comment on stuff without anyone seeing my comments. However, my close friends and my inner circle are aware that I like buff girls. I wish they were as nice about maybe trying to FIND one for me to meet (including one of my closest friends who i met at the gym), but that's a different story. My immediately family is aware but they are a bit culturally conservative in some ways and bodybuilding as a lifestyle does not seem right to them.
When I was in high school and college my online activity was a little more out there and aqcquaintances definitely new too. I had more than a few fbbs added as fb friends back in those days.
Before that it was just my family. And as I mentioned the FBB life does not jive. even some of the lightly muscled women on this site would put them off.
I dont' post about it or talk about it really, and certianly only one person in my life knows i modded her, and only my therapist knows how much i've spent on this specifically over the years.
Technically nobody knows. I don't really consider this an identity or part of myself.
I am trying to arrive at a place where I don't feel anything about muscular women, and I'm almost there by now. To me this attraction has probably always been about power and masochism and I've done my best to demystify both to myself. A clear example on how unconscious things operate. I don't like power or pain per se. I just want to learn how to manage stress and anxiety. Masochism is an extreme form of anxiety management.
While in high school I spent some time with some messed up guys because we happened to share a nerdy hobby for a short while. For some reason one of them suddenly said that he likes pointy breasts and the discussion took off from there to girls in school uniforms and other minor kinks. I jokingly said that some men like women who can throw them into ceiling. It clearly was not a smart move, because I later heard one of the lowlifes slandering me about it to some strangers, thinking I couldn't hear him.
I was hasty and guessed wrong. It wasn't a lighthearted discussion about kinks. You were supposed to share what kind of women you would most like to consume. Having said this I don't think it's any better to be a nice guy who worships a woman before he consumes her. And women far more easily agree to being consumed than worshiped anyway.
I'm glad I haven't hear anything from them since. The pointy breasts guy is married to an ordinary woman and the slanderer is in mental asylum.
But neither do I consider myself a martyr or a victim for this subculture. In many disagreements both parties can be wrong. I don't think it's wise to think of half of mankind as consumables but neither do I think it's wise to build one's identity on any kind of sexual pleasure or activity or fascination with any form of power for its own sake. Though it's not my business to try to stop anyone.
Since I don't think this is me or part of me, neither do I expect it to be received or understood as such.
I think I have disclosed this attraction to a trusted friend once a long time ago, but he did not make anything of it. Because he also knew I liked a cute redhead who later worked in a pet shop and wasn't muscular at all. I also once wrote a memo on many masochistic kinks and showed it to a few friends but did not say there was anything personal in it. Mixed wrestling with a female bodybuilder was just one item among ten or so.
Finally, I think that admiration in the topic is an euphemism. For most who browse this site sexual fascination would be far more like it. Maybe it's a good thing to understand the effort they put into this but it's a small minority of users who has any real idea. For others it's something vaguely big and they equally vaguely appreciate it while going on with the sexual fascination.
I don’t think I’ve ever told anyone about it. Probably was a caught a few times when I was younger. But I’ve never outright said it to anyone.
Are you private, or public when it comes to revealing your good taste in the female form? Personally, I've kept it pretty much to myself and most of my lovers.