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> Her being ok with OP being into muscular women has nothing to do with her being a good person or not. She is perfectly in her rights to be upset with it, or ok with it. How would you feel if your boyfriend/husband/romantic partner went up to you and went “Hey babe, just so you know, I am attracted to a body type that is nothing close to yours”?
Yea but that is no reason to publicly humiliate and bully him. A lot of men think tailor swift is hot but do women worry about being cheated on because of that no. Same when my girlfriend said bard pitt is hot do i care no because we will never meet brad pitt and even if we do i trust her to not cheat.
> A lot of guys can save themselves a lot of grief by simply going out with women they find attractive as opposed to dating a skinny or fat woman and being like “How can I tell her I’m into muscular women,” or “how can I get her to bodybuild?” I don’t know why more don’t do it.
Yea great advice just only date fbbs bro they are everywhere. i don't know about the op or you but i don't have much choice its very rare when i meet a woman who 1 finds me attractive and 2 is single. So i am not going to have high beauty standards in the end muscles are nice but its a luxury there should be more than just looks to keep each other interested.
I never said only date female bodybuilders. There are A LOT of women who lift besides bodybuilders. There are CrossFitters, powerlifters, strongwomen, Olympic lifters, rugby players, etc
Same old question again via another variation. The original and only question here is .... how do I get a muscular girlfriend?
The original poster has an urgent need to reveal his sexual secret in the hopes she will magically transform herself into a physique athlete and satisfy him. Or at least take a pity on him and somehow cater to his fetish by watching competitions together or muscle porn. Sorry man but you are far down the wrong path.
Take a look at yourself first, why can't you attract the type of woman you desire? Answer that first. If you are honest the solution will reveal itself crystal clear.
Here is a thought to get you started. A trained muscular man requests his gf to hit the gym with him because he likes hardbodies, does it sound the same as a dad bod asking his unathletic gf to go hit the gym because he masturbates to abs and biceps?
So for some context , I’ve been with my current girlfriend for almost 3 years now and I’ve finally come to acceptance that I’m into muscular women and is not going to change and I would like to tell her , I just don’t know how. I told my first girlfriend way back when but she completely blew up on me and told me I was disgusting and ended up telling her family and then they began teasing me , so ever since then I have been really hesitant about telling anyone but I really would like to tell my current girlfriend because I see a future with her and I’d like her to know but I completely have no idea on how to tell her with fear of the same thing happening again.
So, I'm not going to make fun of you for asking this. Navigating relationships is not easy and asking for advice is fine.
Apologies for being blunt, but your first girlfriend was a See You Next Tuesday and her family's dogshit too. Put all that crap out of your mind. You have way more value than that and I hope you told them all to piss off.
Think and act from a position of strength. Be secure in who you are. There is immense pressure to "not be found out" if you like this stuff, and I remember it vividly. Here's the secret: it's nobody else's goddamn business. The hell with 'em. Skip to the part where you don't give a rip what other people think as fast as you can. They don't even have a right to know.
You like this girl? She'll find out eventually, especially if you get married. There's no reason to rush telling her, and there's no reason to cower like a dog if she does figure it out. The response is something like "Yes, I do like it. I like you more." Don't force it on her and be matter-of-fact about it. If she's any good, she won't be put into a tailspin.
Go enjoy being with her. Take up some kind of physical activity with her and have fun. Enjoy her for HER.
You're not a dimwit or something for asking. This is a reasonable concern to have in a culture as shitty as ours, assuming you're in the West... you saw it firsthand.
Put the baggage down and just be you, bud. It's okay to be attracted to women. It's also okay to embrace who you are and just move forward with your life without stressing about what other people might think. You don't need their approval.
Go get em, killer.
Current significant other is masculine looking. Almost certainly stronger than the average man. Drier than I would prefer, and slightly calloused from pull-ups (despite wearing gloves). Goes by "Righty."
My last girlfriend was petite and very feminine. She had raven hair, and large blue eyes (a favorite combination). On the Internet, I enjoy looking at women who are muscular, and women who are tall (though not necessarily muscular). I don't think I've ever searched for brunettes with light eyes. I seek out unusual looks because they're so exceedingly rare; it's, for all practical purposes, an unattainable fantasy. My ex would not realistically be either of those things -- muscular or tall. And I had no desire to change her physically. Still, I mentioned very early on that I appreciate athletic women. If she ever checked my browser history, she did not tell me about it. She thought ripped abs on chicks looked "gross." I mocked her for being close-minded and not supportive of her fellow ladies. When she asked what I thought of fat chicks, my face crinkled with disgust. When she proudly called me out for being "closed-minded," I haughtily went to an old fallback: "such foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of small minds." I like women who can banter.
This is extremely doctrinaire. While such honesty might generally be advised, "never" is a word more circumspect people avoid (along with "always"). I've never wanted to know a partner's detailed sexual history, or an exact body count. Irrelevant. Nosy. Gross. When it comes to certain things -- like the best polka music of the 60s -- rational ignorance is the way to go. Moreover, some people, particularly men, can be reasonably good at compartmentalizing. If you're not good at it, you can get better. I don't need to tell any woman I'm dating about a screaming hot co-ed who looks like she stepped out of the pages of Maxim and into my Globalization & Democracy class.
I also don't need a muscle bunny to have a satisfying relationship. In fact, if I ever did score a muscle-babe, I've wondered if it would ruin all future women for me. Probably not. It's bad enough that I like conventionally attractive women, what with all of the competition that brings. I wish I were attracted to the typical overweight, middle-aged American woman.