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What if the attraction to female muscle doesn’t translate to real life?

Nov 15, 2021 - permalink

I say this because I have a friend who said he used to be into heavy women, then he was with one and it was disappointing after building it up so much. Like “no longer into heavy women” disappointing. It would be strange to have to reconsider my sexual preferences after so many years of a built up ideal.

cgsweat
Nov 15, 2021 - permalink

Basically in many of these cases it's just a matter of whether you can put up with the side effects of steroid use. And also her lifestyle typically includes way more gym time than 99% of the rest of the population. If you're sensitive about things like that, then yes it may be a shock to your senses.

Nov 15, 2021 - permalink

Happens I can't remember the word for it but there are many people like this.

Nov 15, 2021 - permalink

I've gotten rid of a few kink fantasy obsessions by trying them in real life, and discovering I'm very much not into them. I've never laid my hands on an FBB, however. Perhaps it's for the best if I'm turned off by the experience - then maybe I'll stop spending so much time in fetish forums.

Nov 15, 2021 - permalink

Yea i have never seen a fbb irl but i have been with very good looking non muscular women and they where not as good as i expected but i have no idea how my body would react to muscular women will it be super intense or will it be just slightly better than a normal woman i don't know i have been idealising them since i hit puberty 15 years ago.

Nov 15, 2021 - permalink

Physical attraction activated by a picture or video is only a small dimension of what your senses can experience in real life. Therefore, a related question: can you have attraction in real life that wouldn't occur with a photograph or video? (BTW, the answer is "yes")

Do consider: a fit and athletic woman who is "average" on a site like this is still very much above average in real life. Give it a chance...

Nov 15, 2021 - permalink

Basically in many of these cases it's just a matter of whether you can put up with the side effects of steroid use. And also her lifestyle typically includes way more gym time than 99% of the rest of the population. If you're sensitive about things like that, then yes it may be a shock to your senses.

Or just find a muscular girl who doesn't use steroids. Despite what some around here think, they actually exist. Not Renee Toney/Nataliya Trukhina muscular of course, but muscular just the same.

I know some of the incels here think that any woman who has more muscle than they do or is even 5% stronger than the average man must be on steroids, but that isn't the reality.

In the middle, there's also lots of women who use steroids in moderation and don't have giant clits or deep voices or any of the other outward signs that come with abuse.

fp909
Nov 15, 2021 - permalink

all the women i've gone out with have been normal sized/shaped, save for two who were pretty heavily muscled crossfitters.

my dad is waiting for me to "settle down" but the "settle" part bothers me. I don't have a laundry list of things to look for but (and i understand that relationships are about compromise) I would rather share gym time or active activities with her instead of either having to do them on my own or cutting them out completely.

Nov 15, 2021 - permalink

Basically in many of these cases it's just a matter of whether you can put up with the side effects of steroid use. And also her lifestyle typically includes way more gym time than 99% of the rest of the population. If you're sensitive about things like that, then yes it may be a shock to your senses.

I think this si the most accurate assessment. I think if you’re someone who not really into the fitness realm or have much knowledge about training, it’s going to come across as quite a shock when you find out how restrictive a female bodybuilder or muscular’s woman’s lifestyle is. They have to spend a lot of time at the gym, you can’t really go out for drinks or crappy food often and late nights out probably won’t happen because you need a lot of sleep to recover from those intense training session.

Also, more along the lines of kind and BDSM, I find that among people like us who are attracted to buff women, there is a bit of a preconceived notion that a woman showing off a display of strength and power means that are interested in taking on a “domme”role where they’re aggressive, dominant and have a desire to overpower men. The reality is: that might not be as common as what is perceived, and I think if a “schmoe” who has a preconceived notion that a muscular woman they meet is going to own the shit out of them, they might be disappointed if said woman has no interest or desire at taking on that “dominant” role. A lot of strong and fit women I know don’t give a shit that they’re stronger than an average dude, and they don’t look down at dudes who can’t lift as much as them. Rather, they only do their sport for a love of it. I think the chances of disappointment won’t really come from the physique itself if you see it in person, but if the guy also is interested in a dominant attitude to go with the muscled physique, it will come more from that specific fantasy not coming true.

Nov 15, 2021 - permalink

Well, better to find out then always be wondering about it I suppose.

Nov 15, 2021 - permalink

Gatsby28:

A lot of strong and fit women I know don’t give a shit that they’re stronger than an average dude, and they don’t look down at dudes who can’t lift as much as them. ... I think the chances of disappointment won’t really come from the physique itself if you see it in person, but if the guy also is interested in a dominant attitude to go with the muscled physique, it will come more from that specific fantasy not coming true.

This is a keen observation not often stated in these threads. I do get the sense this particular fantasy is not nearly as widespread as an attraction to muscular women, but the guys who have these "domme" fantasies are quite intense in their preferences. I agree that they are likely to be disappointed.

Nov 15, 2021 - edited Nov 15, 2021 - permalink

I think this si the most accurate assessment. I think if you’re someone who not really into the fitness realm or have much knowledge about training, it’s going to come across as quite a shock when you find out how restrictive a female bodybuilder or muscular’s woman’s lifestyle is. They have to spend a lot of time at the gym, you can’t really go out for drinks or crappy food often and late nights out probably won’t happen because you need a lot of sleep to recover from those intense training session.

Also, more along the lines of kind and BDSM, I find that among people like us who are attracted to buff women, there is a bit of a preconceived notion that a woman showing off a display of strength and power means that are interested in taking on a “domme”role where they’re aggressive, dominant and have a desire to overpower men. The reality is: that might not be as common as what is perceived, and I think if a “schmoe” who has a preconceived notion that a muscular woman they meet is going to own the shit out of them, they might be disappointed if said woman has no interest or desire at taking on that “dominant” role. A lot of strong and fit women I know don’t give a shit that they’re stronger than an average dude, and they don’t look down at dudes who can’t lift as much as them. Rather, they only do their sport for a love of it. I think the chances of disappointment won’t really come from the physique itself if you see it in person, but if the guy also is interested in a dominant attitude to go with the muscled physique, it will come more from that specific fantasy not coming true.

Yes! Society really wants us all to believe that female body builders are Dominate and gay (penis envy?) but it's just not true I've found that the majority of them are girly and bodybuilding only helps heighten their femininity not take away from it, some may feel the opposite of course but the majority treat competitions like victoria secret beauty pageants..

Then there's the "female body builders are lesbians" bs, ask your self this, how many lesbians do you know irl over the age of 20 that have interest in fitness compared to hetero sexual women? I live in the city and have seen many FB fitness related groups for women spring up over the years and the truth is 90% of the women that join these groups were there to either impress their man or find one, many of them regular mom types with zero dom bones in them. I swear the only reason why people believe bodybuilding is a queer activity is because of how many gay girls dominate female sports in college/highschool and movies, it's quiet strange and unrealistic.

Nov 16, 2021 - permalink

I dunno. You move on and find what you are attracted to and go for that, I guess. Discovering what really turns you on can be an involved process.

I found out I was definitely not submissive after a session with an fbb. I had voraciously read stories and watched vids about men being overpowered and dominated by much stronger women, but having it happen to me directly was not a turn-on. I still liked the aesthetics of female muscle, and the physicality of it, the strength, knowing that I could be overpowered. So I guess I moved on and avoided women who actually got off on tying the likes of me in knots.

Nov 16, 2021 - permalink

Basically in many of these cases it's just a matter of whether you can put up with the side effects of steroid use. And also her lifestyle typically includes way more gym time than 99% of the rest of the population. If you're sensitive about things like that, then yes it may be a shock to your senses.

The "gym time" thing is a big one. These women's lives revolve around the gym, so I would imagine that unless you share that same passion a lot of these women wouldn't be too interesting to be around.

Nov 16, 2021 - permalink

For many guys, the difficulty might be related with other people's sight. For most of us, this is a secret fantasy. It is not so easy to be comfortable with it socially. There is a huge difference between being crazily excited next to a tall huge feminine woman in a hotel room and walking next to her every day of your life.

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