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Dating female bodybuilders question and the ultimate answer

Nov 10, 2021 - edited Nov 10, 2021 - permalink

A lot of men here often ask the question: What does it takes to date a female bodybuilder? and often guys are of the mindset that one needs to hit the gym or be Mr Olympia.

Well, the truth is: YOU DO NOT NEED to hit the gym to meet a FBB.

You just need to have money or doing well financially and the rest will fall in place.

All women love a man/partner who makes a lot of money, and contrary to popular belief, you don't have to be a bodybuilder to scoop a female bodybuilder.

Yes it will make a difference to be in the community and have more opportunities to meet and brush shoulders with FBBs.

But that's about where it stops.

Meeting and dating are not the same thing.

And besides, if you are known in the community, then you can only date 1 woman at time, as you will be known and exposed.

Nevertheless, pumping iron and taking steroids is not the key required to lure any woman, regardless of whether it is a FBB or not.

You would be surprised, but a lot of these FBBs I see, don't actually have male bodybuilders as boyfriends/partners, nor are the women that much into the male bodybuilders.

A few of the younger FBBs have male bodybuilders boyfriends, that comes with the customary dog/Pitbull. ( These types of relationships are often to maximise the dollar with no wish for children in the future).

The FBBs that are mothers, with children, often have normal husbands as they got into bodybuilding after they had children.

Again, contrary to popular belief, when it comes to FBBs, none of them are rich and there isn't money to be made by competing or even attending a gym. ( Hence why a lot of the FBBs are online selling the good, with the exception of 1 or 2 who are born into money, think Cindy Landolt)

The female form of sponsorship often comes in free material stuff or exercise supplements. (A few exception to those who are personal trainers to celebrities, and earn a decent living that way).

The FBBs rarely do have rich husbands, particularly the heaviest ones that are Ms Olympia build.

A tiny few have hit the lottery through hypergamy but not many.

So stop being afraid of asking a FBB for date and thinking that only a muscular man has the potential to get her.

So fellas, get your money right and the rest will follow.

FBBs or any type, you can have them all.

Just tell them where you would like to take them for dinner and and you can thank me later.

Good luck gentlemen

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BOOM! Nailed it. End of story. Thread needs to be locked...

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They date male bodybuilders for sole reason, they were first ones to ask them out just because they shared gym

Women don't care about men's looks other then height

Women cannot be "picked up" by online conversations or it's really hard to do, you get be most handsome guy but you will have hard time getting women online

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"Women don't care about men's looks other then height".......are you sure about that? @One_Eternity Have you ever heard of Bernie Eccleston, Danny DeVito or Robert Downey Jr? You will never be able to date a woman on height alone. And Height and looks don't pay bills or the handbag she needs. Never mind the muscles you obtained from spending time in the gym.

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"Women don't care about men's looks other then height".......are you sure about that? @One_Eternity Have you ever heard of Bernie Eccleston, Danny DeVito or Robert Downey Jr? You will never be able to date a woman on height alone. And Height and looks don't pay bills or the handbag she needs. Never mind the muscles you obtained from spending time in the gym.

Non of the guys you listed have had or have "fit" girlfriends, they have average women around them

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I've found it the only time I've been jealous..as most want to touch her...a learning point in life

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"None of the guys you listed have had or have "fit" girlfriends, they have average women around them" @Michelilny

In this instance, the names mentioned was in relation to the men height point made by @One_Eternity

Nevertheless, don't mention "fit" girls.

I swim, run the marathon, cycle the bike and jog constantly.

I am definitely fitter than Mr Olympia or Phil Heath with my swimmer's body frame.

If by fit you meant muscular and strength (And there is nothing fit about pro BB, but that's another debate), then of course none of their women are muscular, as this is still not the accepted standard in society or in upper class circles.

And this is my point, your message give me vibes as if you put these FBBs on the pedestal and that they are exclusive.

Oh believe me they are not exclusive.

Most of these FBBs can be seen half naked playing with their clits online, and no need to tell you how their average viewers/followers look like.

FELLAS: IF YOU CAN PAY, YOU CAN SLAY.

My 1st post was in response to a young man asking how much money he needed to have in order to "care for a FBB" in one the threads.

*The summary of my post is simply that FBBs can be had, you just need to have access to money, and you don't need to work out neither to get them, as most men tend to think*

Peace and love

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What a bullshit thread.

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What in the cinnamon toast bullshit did I just read? 🤦‍♂️

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But you meet them at the gym

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Wow. So let me make sure I understand: unlike all the plain normal unfit women out there, women who are fit and muscular do not want a man who is lazy and jobless. So interesting! I bet if we really dig into this, we could find more… Such as, fit and muscular women like a man with goals, they like a man with confidence, they like a man who accomplishes what he sets out to do. Unlike all those other women out there… ?

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Francis_R1 has made some good points, I party agree to his post. But he is coming from a point that he has money AND is quite fit. He is not obese or couch potato.

I was in the fitness industry for almost 10 years not anymore. I now run my own company.

Fit women love fit bodies, no way to get around that. It's a huge lie not to factor that in, particularly for young girls in their 20s, early 30s. Their first choice is always a dude that trains or even competes, bigger is better up to a point. Even if you have the slim fit body of a runner is good enough. I have seen broke male BBs with sexy figure competitors spending the girls money. Never saw this happening for a fat nerdy guy.

The less fit you are the more money, smarts, social power you have to bring as compensation. Female muscle comes with the disadvantage that it turns off most men and this limits their options. If you are a decent balanced man there are opportunities but this same man would expand his options a lot more with 10 extra pounds of muscle.

Being in a relationship with FBBs is not easy, their lifestyle and mentality are not relationship friendly. You don't want to start that in a transactional way.

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This cheesy nonsense is like a middle-schooler trying to write satire.

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Folks are calling this bullshit, but ask yourself -- could you pull someone like Margie Martin, Andrea Shaw, or Sunny Andrews if you weren't making at least six figures? A fit body is nice and all, but if you couldn't support their lifestyle, why would they bother?

After all, they're just women, not "goddesses" or anything like that.

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The hard part is just finding a muscular woman I never see them irl I guess like most normal women they prefer a strong man and since there are more strong men than strong women it will be easy for her to get a strong man.

But there are also women who have different tastes who don't mind weak or submissive men but since muscular women are already super rare finding one who is a minority within a minority is going to be like trying to win the lottery.

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The hard part is just finding a muscular woman I never see them irl I guess like most normal women they prefer a strong man and since there are more strong men than strong women it will be easy for her to get a strong man.

But there are also women who have different tastes who don't mind weak or submissive men but since muscular women are already super rare finding one who is a minority within a minority is going to be like trying to win the lottery.

What do you mean by "strong"? as most fighters have average body but would knockout most fit/athletic gymrats, do you think women care how much you lift ? if not then you meant strong physically but physically strong doesn't means you have a lot of muscle

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What do you mean by "strong"? as most fighters have average body but would knockout most fit/athletic gymrats, do you think women care how much you lift ? if not then you meant strong physically but physically strong doesn't means you have a lot of muscle

I mean physically strong as in you can see the muscles i can't really tell if a woman had a black belt or is just strong without looking like it i don't know them personally but that would appeal to me too.

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The hard part is just finding a muscular woman I never see them irl I guess like most normal women they prefer a strong man and since there are more strong men than strong women it will be easy for her to get a strong man.

But there are also women who have different tastes who don't mind weak or submissive men but since muscular women are already super rare finding one who is a minority within a minority is going to be like trying to win the lottery.

Not too hard if you know where to look.

Go to gyms that specialize in lifting. Olympic lifting, powerlifting and CrossFit gyms are ideal (not big-chain gyms.) Get involved in your local fitness community. Go to expos, conventions and compete in shows/meets and go as a spectator. Best way to find a fit, muscular woman is to integrate yourself in fitness culture.

You also gotta put the work in.

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It's a very interesting thread. Here's my opinion: If you want to date a fbb you need to be in the same community. That's one possibility. I'm hoping that my wife will start bodybuilding one day. That would be the jackpot. I mean, sometimes I feel like it wouldn't take much to convince her to hit the gym. We both went to the gym couple of years ago but my wife is still more into sports as I am. She does a lot of sports during work and in her spare time. She's quite strong for a person who's not a gym freak and has more strength than a average woman. But unfortunately she's not interested in spending 6 days per week in the gym. She does a lot for me. She got a "special" piercing, wants to get her nipples pierced but is afraid of it and wants to enlarge her breasts after pregnancy. If I only could convince her to go to the gym. She does not need to be bulky, but a visible Sixpack and a nice ass would be great. What I wanted to say is, that sometime the only thing you need is luck. The point is, that you have to take a look at many fbb. How often have you read biographies? many fbb started hitting the gym because they had an accident, were anorexic, felt uncomfortable with their body. A few of them did sports their whole life and it was just a matter of time til they get bigger. A small amount started because they went to the gym with the boyfriend. In conclusion, what I want to say is, that most of the fbb were normal woman and if you don't be a dork, I would say that the chances are high to get a date

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Women in general want someone stronger than them, I know everyone on this site likes to claim this is no longer the case but it is. Just the fact that there are threads on here and other fbb sites with names like "muscular women with average boyfriends" shows you that its such an uncommon occurrence that it takes multiple people scouring social media sites only to come up with a few 100 instances of this being the case. You're right when you say that you don't need to be a bodybuilder or muscular but a 6'2 250lbs man who never works out will have a better shot than a skinny 120lbs guy unless you find a rare instance where an fbb genuinely doesn't care if the guy is weaker, even then there will be red flags that the skinny guy just has a fetish and wants to be dominated so he'll also have to overcome that too.

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Women in general want someone stronger than them, I know everyone on this site likes to claim this is no longer the case but it is. Just the fact that there are threads on here and other fbb sites with names like "muscular women with average boyfriends" shows you that its such an uncommon occurrence that it takes multiple people scouring social media sites only to come up with a few 100 instances of this being the case. You're right when you say that you don't need to be a bodybuilder or muscular but a 6'2 250lbs man who never works out will have a better shot than a skinny 120lbs guy unless you find a rare instance where an fbb genuinely doesn't care if the guy is weaker, even then there will be red flags that the skinny guy just has a fetish and wants to be dominated so he'll also have to overcome that too.

Not just that, but it’s the lifestyle too. Being a bodybuilder, muscular or even fit isn’t just dicking around at the gym for a couple days a week and putting junk in your body. It’s dedicated gym time with goal-oriented programming, eating clean and getting proper recovery. A fit woman isn’t going to want to be with someone who doesn’t do that, and as a fit guy, even though I am attracted to fit women, I’m not going to go out with someone who doesn’t follow a similar lifestyle.

I see so much denial in the “schmoe” community that it’s kind of sad. I’m sure lifting weights and getting involved in the fitness community isn’t what you want to hear, but that’s your best shot at getting with someone you’re attracted to.

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My wife and I got a lot of chuckles out of this thread. As Gatsby said, whether you want to hear it or not, the vast majority of female bodybuilders want or are with someone of a similar build and lifestyle. We know a lot of bodybuilders personally, and almost every single one of them is with another bodybuilder. Again as Gatsby said, it’s much more than just lifting weights. It’s a total lifestyle. It would be very hard to be happy with someone if one had a rigorous diet / nutrition regiment while the other ate junk food all day. Successful relationships mean both partners share the same interests and enjoy similar activities. It’s why so many bodybuilders partner with each other (aside from the obvious fact that they like the look and are attracted to it in their partner).

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OP is trying to downplay his personal agency in the matter, while simultaneously painting FBBs as gold diggers. I'm not sure what his definition of "rich" is, but someone needs to correct me if it's not generally true that the great majority of women seeking men prefer someone who sets goals, achieves them, and has confidence in doing so. (Those attributes have been known to overlap with doing well financially...)

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Do you really want to be one of those gross older men whose wives refuse to take pictures with them because of how unappealing they are? If so, perhaps you should DM one of those guys for advice about how to become a sugar daddy.

Otherwise just work on yourself and make sure you're bringing something to the table besides money. If money is all that a woman wants, why would she choose you?

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