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Why do so many girls quit in 1 or 2 years ?

M76
Jan 09, 2021 - permalink

I've noticed a trend that about 90% of the women who get on the site with a bang will be completely gone in 2 years.

They show great potential get big quickly then as fast as they appeared they disappear. It seems to me that very few actually continue for more than 2 years. I don't want to list any names here but I can think of dozens in just a few seconds who took the stage by storm then were poof gone!

What I'm interested in is the reason why this keeps happening. I have a few theories:

  1. The worst: They met a guy, who doesn't appreciate their training, and slowly undermines or talks them out of training seriously
  2. The creeps of this community
  3. The level of training necessary to keep a high level phyisque is too demanding for them so they quit.
  4. They just wanted to challenge themselves to enter a few competitions and never intended to keep up bodybuilding in the long term.
  5. Change of life circumstances no longer having the funds or time to do it.
Jan 09, 2021 - permalink

I think 3 is probably the most likely reason, followed by 5. Even though growth hormones and steroids are a thing, it still takes a lot of effort and commitment to get as buff as we like it. Some of them are affected by 2 (Michelle Gavin being a recent example) but an equal number might not even pay attention enough to the internet to realize it or they don't mind being seen that way as they do cam shows or sessions. I don't think 1 is pertinent because plenty of them have boyfriends that are also in this scene.

M76
Jan 09, 2021 - permalink

Also being in the scene does not equal liking muscular women. I think the only reason many have bfs who are actually bodybuilders is because they spend their time at the gym hence that's where they meet men. Just as crossfitters usually have crossfitter partners, and so on.

Jan 09, 2021 - permalink

Also being in the scene does not equal liking muscular women. I think the only reason many have bfs who are actually bodybuilders is because they spend their time at the gym hence that's where they meet men. Just as crossfitters usually have crossfitter partners, and so on.

Agreed, that was what I intended by "in this scene."

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Jan 09, 2021 - permalink

I spoke to a girl who was in WPD and is divorcing her husband because “she was getting too big” and making the switch to BB. The details are a little more specific but this is a rare case of her doing what she wants and not downsizing or quitting to satisfy someone else

Jan 09, 2021 - permalink

I think the main reason is that they start to take steroids too early, they become giant in short period of time and then they have health issues because of gear or they lose motivation and such muscle mass is very hard to maintain without steroids and even more without solid base - mass built also natural, real passion and commitement, work ethic, knowledge about training, etc.

Jan 09, 2021 - edited Jan 09, 2021 - permalink

I think the main reason is that they start to take steroids too early, they become giant in short period of time and then they have health issues because of gear or they lose motivation and such muscle mass is very hard to maintain without steroids and even more without solid base - mass built also natural, real passion and commitement, work ethic, knowledge about training, etc.

Yes I think it's mostly because of this.

I mean there are other reasons like major changes in their lives like a marriage etc meaning they don't have as much time as they used to keep training that much.

But the side effects of steroids along with the sacrifices they need to make are the main reason, lots of them start to show serious side effects like masculinization or even health issues.

And IMO they think that there's a point where it's too risky to continue to take steroids.

Also, maintaining a massive and shredded physique at the same time requires a big amount of time in the gym, along with money, a frustrating diet (having to eat LOTS of protein + right amount of calories etc) and also health issues.

So there are some of them who feel the sacrifices needed to stay this big and shredded is not worth it, especially if they need to devote time to other stuff (new partners, kids, jobs, hobbies etc).

Some of them quit lifting in general, but most of them continue to train but are less invested in it so they lost size like Shannon Courtney.

Jan 10, 2021 - permalink

3 and 5 are the most likely. It gets to a point where bodybuilding just isn't enjoyable because it gets harder and harder to maintain a certain physique while trying to not rely on steroids. Hell, that's the reason Rosanna Harte, Dani Reardon, Cindy Phillips, and Hayley McNeff quit. This shit just east fun anymore.

Jan 15, 2021 - permalink

Can be for personal reasons, Rosie Harte used to compete back in the day.

Jan 15, 2021 - permalink

Can be for personal reasons, Rosie Harte used to compete back in the day.

Yeah, but she came to the realization that gals like Hayley McNeff came to: this shit just wasn't fun anymore.

Jan 15, 2021 - edited Jan 15, 2021 - permalink

Yeah, but she came to the realization that gals like Hayley McNeff came to: this shit just wasn't fun anymore.

It's a difficult and demanding lifestyle, the long training sessions 5 or 6 times a week, the diet, the supplements, the gear.

Very few people can stay dedicated to this more than 2 years, there's a point where the fun and enjoyment you get from it is too low compared to the effort.

I used to lift heavily and was very invested in it for 3 year approximately, I tried to get back on it every now an then for a couple of months, but the time and energy it takes its just too much for me considering I have a job and family outside of that.

And I wasn't even training as much and as hard as most women on this site.

I think if I could afford not to work, then yes I would get back on it, but working 40 or 45 hours a week + driving 1h to get to work + spending time and going out with your family etc etc, it's hard to combine that with a serious and consistent training

Jan 15, 2021 - permalink

I think there is a combination of 1 and 2. They meet a bf who is fine with them training, but not at all fine with them having exposure to others through their training or modeling. There are several examples of women who disappear completely when they hook up with a certain (jealous/possessive) bf, only to happily reappear when they break up.

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Jan 15, 2021 - permalink

It's a difficult and demanding lifestyle, the long training sessions 5 or 6 times a week, the diet, the supplements, the gear.

Very few people can stay dedicated to this more than 2 years, there's a point where the fun and enjoyment you get from it is too low compared to the effort.

I used to lift heavily and was very invested in it for 3 year approximately, I tried to get back on it every now an then for a couple of months, but the time and energy it takes its just too much for me considering I have a job and family outside of that.

And I wasn't even training as much and as hard as most women on this site.

I think if I could afford not to work, then yes I would get back on it, but working 40 or 45 hours a week + driving 1h to get to work + spending time and going out with your family etc etc, it's hard to combine that with a serious and consistent training

I had a similar thought. I was very active with weight training and other stuff through college up until a couple of years ago and then my body started to really fight me. And I was like “I’m not competing why am I working so damn hard” so 2020 as much as it was a shit year allowed me to basically not work out at all to relax and take a step back. I think a lot of women have the same thought

Jan 15, 2021 - permalink

A lot of good points. And don’t forget: if the thrill and incentive to train is the fun of getting bigger and seeing changes, there will be diminishing returns on that. After a couple years, it takes the same amount of work to make even a little progress. There are few financial rewards. To go from one’s 20s into one’s 30s while trying to balance physical health, career development, and family planning... it’s a lot.

M76
Jan 15, 2021 - permalink

One would expect that they like the aesthetics themselves, that's why I find it strange why someone would completely quit if they were natural.

I'd hate to find out that the haters are correct and most of them were using so they had to stop.

Jan 15, 2021 - edited Jan 15, 2021 - permalink

Completely quitting training is one thing compared to not competing or deciding not to be a part of "the industry." I think a lot of women leave the constant dieting and the endorsements/promotions/social media/competition scene, but still continue to train.

Jan 15, 2021 - permalink

The next big thing probably isn't.

Jan 15, 2021 - permalink

I skimmed the thread, but I don't think anyone has named one of the most important answers: They want to have children.

Jan 15, 2021 - permalink

I mentioned family planning... 😊

Jan 17, 2021 - permalink

I think to a certain extent everyone has answered the question.

Jan 23, 2021 - permalink

Paige Sandgren, who seems to be getting back into it, cited money limitations and her boyfriend dumping her over the physique. Two tough things to overcome. I assume she’s not alone in that journey.

Jan 23, 2021 - permalink

What happended with Shay Massey?

Jan 23, 2021 - permalink

What happended with Shay Massey?

I believe the story is that someone leaked her nudes and she deleted all her social media as a result.

Jan 23, 2021 - permalink

I believe the story is that someone leaked her nudes and she deleted all her social media as a result.

Shame, She was cool

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Jan 23, 2021 - permalink

I believe the story is that someone leaked her nudes and she deleted all her social media as a result.

Im okay with OF or whatever, and i know there are plenty of bad people out there leaking stuff but.

IMO. assume people will. if you dont want that stuff out make a decision. goes for anyone.

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