I've not outwardly said it, however have complimented her after she's worked out which has recently made a difference in our conversation. For example I've commented initially on how toned her thighs were getting which she appreciated and took as a compliment. Since then I've mentioned her abs and the other night in bed how toned her arms are now which illicited a bicep flex which she let me feel :)
I almost always tell them because if you plan on staying with her for any amount of time, then she's eventually going to find out.
Just be honest about it. I've never had any negative reactions. They're usually amused. If a past girlfriend wasn't buff, then I didn't make a big deal out of it, but I usually date women who have at least some semblance of muscularity.
Yes my wife knows and appreciates it with me.....
I think it’s important for ones partner to know and share your fantasies
It brings sex to a whole new level...
yes and she's probably as much into them as me if not more
Every woman I've ever been with has been buffed to some degree, so even if I didn't actually tell them, it always became obvious from my constant attention to their muscles. My present wife used to have solid arms, great forearms and even developed traps from her job loading freight. When she found out her muscles turned me on, she even began lifting weights, to make me go crazy!!! The sad part is, once we got married, she stopped lifting weights, eventually lost her physical job and over time, her muscles withered and died. Now I just live on these sites for my femuscle fix. @choco...if your girlfriend is muscular and seems proud of her physique, tell her how sexy her muscles are. From my experience and some of the guys in here, she will appreciate turning you on and in fact will probably turn her on by turning you on!!! Good luck.
My gf knows I like muscles, she even started gym 1y ago, but she is not aware I visit such sites.
I generally go the 'positive reinforcement' route, showing my respect/appreciation when my partners have done various activities that build strength and athleticism. I want to be supportive without coming off weird or demanding. I made an exception when my wife mentioned that her dumbass sister was giving her shit about her big calves and then I made it clear that I would be really unhappy if she got smaller calves and that her sister was a fucking idiot.
How do you guys (who have told your girlfriends/wives) put into words what you find attractive?
@scottabc...kudos to you for setting your wife straight on her sister!!! There are so many women who still curse their big calves or big arms. I'm sure some of the women I dated thought I was weird for loving their muscles but I find muscular women so incredibly hot, I couldn't help it!!!
@Burke5, it's basically the same thing that women find attractive in a muscular man. A physically developed woman is still curvy but her curves are more defined and obviously much harder. More and more women are seeing the beauty in having toned arms. I think many of them already know how sexy, strong, developed legs are. A defined female back is incredibly sexy. Just let the words come out naturally...and express exactly why a toned woman is hot!
Yea, she knows. She's a Crossfitter/boxer herself, so it wasn't too surprising to her.
When I met my wife many years ago she was a really skinny girl. We were in our second date and a muscular woman passed by. She said something about how muscular that woman was and I answered that she herself would be really ripped if she worked out. She joined the gym and later she hired a personal trainer. Now she is my muscular wife. We are more or less the same size (I'm a bit taller) but she is way stronger than me and has the best biceps.
I started working at Gold's Gym after when I graduated high school in Venice Beach California. It was a place to work at but also extremely rewarding. My co-worker got me a job there because he knew the head manager of the gym at the time. I became a young amateur bodybuilder while I was working at Gold's and also working out in college.
During my time at Gold's I met my future wife there who was not into bodybuilding at all but she worked out a few times week. But during that I time was unhappy with my marriage and started dated female bodybuilders because I've always loved them. Raye Hollitt from Skin Deep got me into female muscle. Denise Hoshor and Chyna from the WWF were my dates at times and bedroom buddies if you know what I mean. My wife got into bodybuilding because of my interest. She knew I was horny for them. But our marriage failed miserably.
After that I moved to Chicago and started dating again asking women out at the gyms and so fourth. My friend who was a personal trainer said that he met his wife on Fitness Singles dating site for people who love exercise and being active. I tried it and met my future second wife there who has from Russia.
My fiance from Russia at the time didn't like bodybuilding at all. She was a bikini model. But I commented that her frame didn't match her bikini modelling because of how wide she was. Usually bikini models are slim not wide and have big beautiful breasts. My wife hate to say this didn't have the usual standards. My wife's parents were both bodybuilders and she didn't take advantage of what she had. I immediately introduced my wife to bodybuilding while at a local gym in St. Petersburg. I told her she had the frame and muscle mass to go extremely huge and feel more confident about herself. She started training and never looked back. She loved it. Bodybuilding is now a part of her life. All I can to the guys out there who want there woman as bodybuilders is that show them the ropes and be honest how you feel. It works wonders in the end.
I make a point to tell whomever I'm with what I'm into. I don't like keeping this a secret from someone so close to me and, honestly, if I don't share, there's automatically zero or near zero chance for her to care for my tastes, whatever that may amount to in the end. It's not an easy thing to do, it never feels easy to me but it beats burying my head in the sand.
Thumbs up to Brand. Great point!!!
I was very open about it with my ex. We knew all of each other's fetishes and used them on each other to great effect. It was 9 years of great sex right up to the end. She had no muscle tone at all but wasn't insecure about my taste for muscular and dominant women. She wasn't naturally dominant herself but she sure knew how to act the part. And I would do the same for her.
If you're in a long-term relationship, I think you owe it to yourself and the person you're with to be upfront. It goes with the trust and support that should be a part of any intimate relationship. You might not be as lucky as me and have it become a part of your sex life, but at least you won't feel like you're keeping secrets. That's never good for anybody.