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Chatting up muscular girls at the gym/around town

Sep 06, 2019 - permalink
Whenever I see a muscular girl in the wild, I always get pretty nervous/awkward and try not to stare, but I would also love to actually approach them and chat with them aybe even get a number): now what my sometimes socially awkward ass has is: what's the appropriate way to do it? Do you just go with "wow miss you're jacked! Do you compete??" comment on her shoulders? Arms? Back?
Nov 03, 2019 - permalink
I wish I could be more helpful, but I don't get to gyms enough, and I've never seen one anywhere else. I once saw an FBB leaving the gym, and I saw another staying at it, but I was a little afraid to look for too long.
Nov 05, 2019 - permalink
If I see a muscled woman, I normally will stop & compliment her on her physique-If she's not with a guy or the guy is elsewhere.
They tend to appreciate that & I do normally ask if they compete etc. & do they have media coverage I can follow.
A few nice chats etc.have ensued over the years because of it.
My favourite place to see them is when on holiday by the pool beach & everything she has is there to be admired, also if I'm in the gym & have never seen them there before.
Nov 07, 2019 - permalink
Women are women, whether they have muscles or not.  They like for you to treat them normally, and not as though you're just stalking them just for their bodies.  Charm can go a long way, but not everyone is naturally charming.  It's something that takes practice.  If you strike out, keep trying.  Be genuinely interested in getting to know her as a person, that your interest goes beyond just her body.  She needs to feel comfortable around you, and she needs to feel like you're someone she can trust.
Feb 23, 2020 - permalink
Depending on where I meet them I crank up the charm and refrain from any body talk until we have a good rapport. Unless it's one of those obvious situations where she's showing lots of interest.

These days, I'd rather not wait to get to what seems to be the only thing I'm interested in which is muscle talk, flexing, fawning over her physique. But I always play more conservative with the more overtly muscular women. Just better  to know them on other levels first.
Jan 07, 2021 - permalink

I see them all the time in the wild.

Whole Foods, airports and gyms are where you will see them.

I don't think there's an "appropriate" way to approach them, but I've had success approaching them by not mentioning their muscles (the bigger their arms, the harder it is to do) and not acting like a weirdo.

Jan 07, 2021 - permalink

I've met Melissa Frabbiele, Christina Sondgroth, and Allison Ethier in the wild, plus some whose names i don't know. I had pleasant conversations with all of them. Christina asked me if I wanted to take a picture with her (I did). Allison is now a Facebook friend, although she and I haven't said all that much to each other. It's not that hard, just be a gentleman and treat them like any other women you'd meet.

Also Rebecca Hasulak, but she is not a bodybuilder, she's a model who's very fit.

Jan 07, 2021 - permalink

I know it can be difficult, but as it's been said a few times above you just go with the flow and treat them like any other person, because despite looking different, most are really just people, although I've met a few who are a little nuts.

I think you can start with a compliment on their physique. I haven't met a woman who didn't like a compliment. In my experience, women who work hard and spend so much time working of their body really like a when someone notices and has something kind to say. Many times, depending the location and situation it leads to a real conversation. But again don't be creepy and overly admiring. You've said it once, she knows you like her look, you don't have to say it again in a different way.

PaulMasvidal (above) knows where to find them. I think in some ways the gym is the most difficult place to strike up a conversation, because I know myself and the other hardcore guys and girls in my gym don't really like to have a conversation on workout time. Paul's also spot on about Whole Foods and Airports, at least in my neck of the woods. Almost every other time I'm in Whole Foods in my town I run into someone who body builds, male or female. And airports here in south Florida too.

Funny story about the airport, I was always into muscular women, way before I got into bodybuilding myself, and I was at the baggage claim carousel when I saw a gorgeous (in my eyes, at least) woman bodybuilder waiting for her bag. She was probably in her early to mid 40's and I was just in my early 30's. I was coming home from a trip and she was from out of town meeting girl friends. I didn't know her from Eve, but ended up driving her to her hotel on the beach and all I did to start the conversation with her was to ask her "Do you need me to get that for you?" as she reached for her big bag. She said "No, I got it" and as she was pulling it off with one arm she gave me a quick flex with the other. We got to talking more after that, I won't bore you with the rest, I just wanted to show how really easy it is, if you just relax, breath and don't over think what you are going to say.

Jan 07, 2021 - permalink

Damn I hope I can finally get a more stable job and treat myself to one-off visits a couple of times a month and find myself a place with above-average women...

Jan 07, 2021 - permalink

ive had quite a few encounters with women at a few gyms, running the gamut to "that was probably real weird" to "i asked her out and her dad is scary" to "we are good friends and she has a great body but I won't obsess over it". Never really had the pleasure of an "in the wild" experience (don't really consider a gym the wild lol) but my experiences were much more pleasant the less i made a big deal out of it. the more i let the fetish drive the more awkward i felt which meant the whole interaction was going pear-shaped.

don't ask if they need a spot lol

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