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Focus on your own growth, skill, and enjoyment.
Us men are much more attractive if we aren't desperately searching.
Martial arts. Try that. MMA, or BJJ. Especially BJJ. Lots of buffed, fit girls and women train and compete.
Make it easy on yourself, set the goal of becoming good at a hobby. The girls will come.
Also, get good at walking up to buff girls and complimenting them (not too much) and actually talking to them.
Good luck.
Lastly, less time asking for advice here. More time IRL talking to people. My $0.02c.
Its just Luck most gyms dont have a lot of muscular women just men and regular women. if you do see one she is too busy if she is not she is probably in a relationship already or there is something else that makes a relationship impossible.
Also the men to women ratio in most gyms is already like 10:1, so unless you're high up in the gym hierarchy or super attractive, it's gonna basically be just a fantasy.
find the right type of gym. Crossfit gyms or hyrox style may have more women into lifting but try out several gyms. Honestly if you can afford it consider getting multilple gym memberships or classpass
What's great about Crossfit/Hyrox gyms is that their structure usually encourages community building. They're not "big box" gyms were people go in, wear headphones, and go out. They foster community through their classes, and it's not uncommon for gyms like that to host in-house competitions, meetups and other parties. I met some amazing people through my last CrossFit gym.
But the thing I want to add to that is when you get in a gym like that, network with both the men and women there. You don't want to roll up there and immediately give your attention to the strongest or most muscular woman there. Be friendly and approachable to everyone there.
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Trying to get jacked for years but my diet sucks.
What's a chode?
no profit so far (probably in debt :D )
Have a a semi new gym crush who I call buff Amber A. (after a girl I knew in middle school/high school cause she looks like her)but has that don't talk to me look. Maybe go after Marissa Soto who I posted in that other thread about GWM encounters though my gym friend asked her out once and she replied that she had a bf but he already profited from another girl later on he met on bumble.
I can't get jacked to the level that I'd look like their gymbro partner, and let's face it most women want a bigger guy. They put in the work, they want you to look it too. I look alright and I could probably get bigger, and I'm not "skinny" or anything. But I'm definitely a thinner build and I'm "only" 5'10", which wouldn't be a huge problem if I didn't love tall women (slightly shorter than me with no heels).
Women easily look past the tall thing, and the taller she is in my experience the less she really cares; it's the little 5'3" ones who want a towering Prince Charming. But combining nearly as tall and looks like she might be as strong is a bit much for them and I'm not willing to do steroids. Thankfully fit women aren't my only type. As long as she isn't rail thin like some 90s model or too... "curvy," let's say, I'm good.
I basically been eyeballing my diet. I'm not tall, I'm what the old bodybuilding.com forums called a manlet. Like WellArmed said I too isn't willing to do steroids but I have been tempted many times but that only goes so far unless your diet is in check as well. I'm just an Asian dude that likes fit white girls!
So this may or not be helpful to anyone, and I am not sure if this is right thread, but...
I love doing muscle worship sessions, but the older I get, the less energy I have to seek out ones that I think will be really exciting.
I am not single, so I don't know much about dating websites, but around Thanksgiving I was itching to do a session, and thought maybe I could try a dating website. I learned about Seeking, which probably already everyone else already knows about, and I signed up to give it a try.
The goal was (has always been) could I find one or two local women with whom I could occasionally do a session, to satisfy that urge?
Shockingly, this has worked. It took a ton of scrolling, and politely declining a lot of meetings with women who were not muscular at all but messaged me anyways, but I did have two sessions, both of which were terrific. It wasn't hard, it only took me a day or two to find these, and I had several other options that might have been just as good or better.
The first one was a woman who was definitely a "bodybuilder," she has never completed, but could get lean and compete in figure for sure (as an amateur). She's on the edge of the scene but actually didn't know what a session was (she claimed).
The other one I would describe as a "civilian who is quite muscular." More of a sleeper build.
Both sessions were fantastic in their own ways, and I already have a second set up with the bodybuilder.
So I know this isn't "dating" in a traditional sense, but that's partly bc I set parameters from the start. Most of the women on this site are seeking "arrangements," but I know from talking to the "civilian," the details of the arrangement are not always clear cut or preset. And in a sense, all dating is kind of an arrangement, one could argue.
In any case, I recommend this site, at least in the way I used it.
So this may or not be helpful to anyone, and I am not sure if this is right thread, but...
I love doing muscle worship sessions, but the older I get, the less energy I have to seek out ones that I think will be really exciting.
I am not single, so I don't know much about dating websites, but around Thanksgiving I was itching to do a session, and thought maybe I could try a dating website. I learned about Seeking, which probably already everyone else already knows about, and I signed up to give it a try.
The goal was (has always been) could I find one or two local women with whom I could occasionally do a session, to satisfy that urge?
Shockingly, this has worked. It took a ton of scrolling, and politely declining a lot of meetings with women who were not muscular at all but messaged me anyways, but I did have two sessions, both of which were terrific. It wasn't hard, it only took me a day or two to find these, and I had several other options that might have been just as good or better.
The first one was a woman who was definitely a "bodybuilder," she has never completed, but could get lean and compete in figure for sure (as an amateur). She's on the edge of the scene but actually didn't know what a session was (she claimed).
The other one I would describe as a "civilian who is quite muscular." More of a sleeper build.
Both sessions were fantastic in their own ways, and I already have a second set up with the bodybuilder.
So I know this isn't "dating" in a traditional sense, but that's partly bc I set parameters from the start. Most of the women on this site are seeking "arrangements," but I know from talking to the "civilian," the details of the arrangement are not always clear cut or preset. And in a sense, all dating is kind of an arrangement, one could argue.
In any case, I recommend this site, at least in the way I used it.
How did you word it? Do you just write on your bio "not here to date, looking for muscle mommies to crush my head in exchange for cash"?
If so, do you have to publicly share your face along with that?
Never used that site, on most that I know you're only able to add like 3-4 pictures and 2 sentences at most and then you both have to like each-other in order to start a conversation.
wait for one to show up at your front door and be like "what took you so long"
I'd add dating apps. Some of them have a "filter by body type" functionality.
I think it's way more efficient to focus on your strong points rather than try to go to gyms and be the biggest guy there. Chances are muscular girls have seen and hung out with lots of fit guys. Personality, GSOH, an impressive job, and intelligence seem to matter a lot more, judging from muscular girls I know who are dating guys that are even smaller than them.
How did you word it? Do you just write on your bio "not here to date, looking for muscle mommies to crush my head in exchange for cash"?
If so, do you have to publicly share your face along with that?
Never used that site, on most that I know you're only able to add like 3-4 pictures and 2 sentences at most and then you both have to like each-other in order to start a conversation.
"I am a successful businessman who loves to smile, and will invest time and money into having fun.
I admire fit women - I think muscles on a woman are beautiful, and I admire the hard work that goes into it.
Happy to send pictures if we are a good potential fit."
That was my profile, and I didn't have to upload photos to the site.
When I saw a woman who had some muscle, I wrote her a short note saying something polite like "you have a terrific physique - I respect all the hard work you must do to look like that. It's beautiful."
I got a response every time. Some were short: "Thanks" - and I wouldn't necessarily pursue those further. But most times the woman would write back, and often they were very straightforward and ask me what I was looking for.
In those cases I told them straight off what a muscle worship session was, how I like them to go, and how much I would be willing to pay for one.
I had multiple takers - besides the two whom I've met, a third said she was down, but we couldn't find a time before she went away for the holidays, so I may still see her.
I also got many messages from women I didn't message first. But a lot of them didn't read my profile, so they weren't a good match for me, and I politely explained that to them.
A couple of women insisted they WERE muscular enough for a session, even though they were not (for me), which was amusing, and I politely turned those down as well.
The bodybuilder-level woman I saw sends me random gym photos occasionally, and we are scheduled to meet again Monday. Like, "Merry Christmas," and it's a crazy-great photo of her working out. She is both fun AND understands the transactional nature of it, and is good at doing her part - she is insanely attractive, and I am sure she has different arrangements with other people, which is fine for me. I am not trying to date her, I only want to hang out with her once in a while to satisfy this urge.
Some good (and some dubious, ha!) advice here!!
I'd add that if your gym has a glute bridge machine, get cosy with it. This is probably the best advice I can give, other than be wealthy and not in the top or bottom 30% of the guys who are best/worst at hiding said wealth.
Apart from getting you nearer to the laydeeeez, the exercise itself is one of the most, if not THE(E) healthiest exercises you can do for your long term health. The glutes are probably the most underdeveloped muscle in most men, including bodybuilders, and strengthening them prevents or hugely mitigates many longer term health issues.
A lot of bang, in every sense, for your gym fee.
This thread is where we motivate ourselves to find the women we desire, this thread is for all genders
Please provide any ideas you have. Ive been able to get a few but not all of my female partners into lifting