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Do they know ? Do they realize the effect they have on "us" ?

KJD
Oct 26, 2022 - edited Oct 26, 2022 - permalink

A small event that strengthened my suspicion even more. A few months ago I went to a crossfit competition with a good friend of mine to cheer on another friend.

During the day we had to find out where certain parts of the competition were going on as there were some that went on indoors, some outdoors and some also in a pool. The place where everything was going was huge so at some point we had to ask someone in which direction we should go for a certain part of the competition.

The friend I was with, he is a real ladies-men who knows how to treat and approach women in a friendly and polite manner. Women are quite easily impressed by him.

At one point he approached one of the female participants, who happened to be passing by, to ask for directions. The girl was not an elite athlete, but still quite toned and muscular. She wasn't a beauty queen, but she wasn't ugly either. Just a mediocre girl. I noticed pretty quickly that my friend was tripping over his words and not sure how to behave. The girl herself was all self-assured and self-confident and at some point went to calm down my friend herself because she saw that he wasn't quite sure how to behave.

After she steered us in the right direction, we continued on our way. My friend, who isn't particularly fond of muscular women, saw that I had noticed something during the conversation he had with the girl and told me he wasn't quite sure what had just happened to him. I assured him that the long day and the heat could have something to do with it and that we were both starting to get quite tired. :-)

Feb 03, 2023 - permalink

Part One: yes Part Two; yes

Feb 03, 2023 - permalink

idk. i think a woman can feel if you are interested in her. but as far as understanding that u are attracted by her muscles just meeting for the first time? i don't know

fp909
Feb 03, 2023 - permalink

i guess it coudl go different ways:

  • you don't say anything about her physique, so either you don't mind it or don't care enough to say

  • you say something anything that can be construed as negative (by her) and she knows you're not into it

  • you say something positive, and you COULD be into it, or just nice

  • you say more than a few things, and she definitely now knows you're into it.

i think most of us would wind up in the last category.

Feb 03, 2023 - edited Feb 03, 2023 - permalink

Listen..smart women AND smart men ALWAYS know when a man or a woman is interested and finds them attractive. It's human nature, you dig? I'm a man and I know it when a woman or man is interested in me..not hard to figure it out once they show it. I'm nice to everyone regardless of whether or not I'm interested in anything physically/sexually.

cgsweat
Feb 03, 2023 - permalink

Listen..smart women AND smart men ALWAYS know when a man or a woman is interested and finds them attractive. It's human nature, you dig? I'm a man and I know it when a woman or man is interested in me..not hard to figure it out once they show it. I'm nice to everyone regardless of whether or not I'm interested in anything physically/sexually.

The definition of "smart" differs greatly depending on who you ask. You seem to equate it to emotional intelligence. I'm willing to bet that the majority of people in the world aren't nearly as sensitive to these social nuances.

Most people guess, but they don't know for sure. As you said, you're nice to everyone, and so the average person is likely to confuse that with attraction at some point.

Feb 04, 2023 - permalink

The definition of "smart" differs greatly depending on who you ask. You seem to equate it to emotional intelligence. I'm willing to bet that the majority of people in the world aren't nearly as sensitive to these social nuances.

Most people guess, but they don't know for sure. As you said, you're nice to everyone, and so the average person is likely to confuse that with attraction at some point.

Maybe smart wasn't the best way to put it..perceptive is perhaps more appropriate.

Feb 04, 2023 - permalink

It's smart to be clear about what you like and not play silly little games hoping the other person figures it out.

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