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How do you tell a woman that you like female muscle?

jg300
Jan 09, 2017 - permalink
I have some questions for those who told their wife, girlfriend, friend, or a woman you dated that you like muscles on a woman:

1) How did you tell her?
2) What was her reaction?
3) Were there any changes to her behavior afterwards (whether good or bad)?

tw
Jan 13, 2017 - permalink
I've told several women I dated as well as my wife and ex-wife.

I don't know exactly what you mean by "How did you tell her?"...  I guess it usually came up whenever we had some kind of discussion about what "kinks" each of us liked. Seems like every woman I ever dated for very long would eventually want to have that discussion, about "So.... What kind of things are your turn-ons?"

I'd say I usually got positive reactions. My ex-wife was really strong anyway, so she seemed happy to hear it. I dated a big, tall black gal one time who I just came out and told that I thought she'd look really good with some muscles on her. She replied that she'd thought about lifting weights before and trying to get some "guns", and agreed it would look good. In one case, the girl I was dating just found my interest in female muscle "interesting" but had no interest in trying to build any muscles herself. She just thought it was, like many fetishes out there, another odd one that she could see why some people liked but wasn't her thing.

In the case of my current wife, she started making an effort to work out, after finding out it was something I enjoyed. But she also had some health issues come up that forced her to put that on hold for a while. I don't think it's something that affected us in a negative way though. She's just a little bit disappointed she couldn't get the muscles she was originally shooting for. There are plenty of other reasons we're together though.... 

I think a guy is a lot more likely to get a negative reaction out of admitting this type of interest if he's not already in a real relationship that has some chemistry, though. Women are more likely to over-emphasize how "weird" and awkward they think it would make things if they don't know you too well yet, and you bring it up too quickly - like it's the main thing you look for in women.


I have some questions for those who told their wife, girlfriend, friend, or a woman you dated that you like muscles on a woman:

1) How did you tell her?
2) What was her reaction?
3) Were there any changes to her behavior afterwards (whether good or bad)?
jg300
Jan 14, 2017 - permalink
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

By asking "how did you tell her?" I would like to know how people brought up the topic of liking muscles with a woman such as your wife, girlfriend, someone you're dating, or a female friend. It is very difficult for me to bring up the topic due to the fear of the woman thinking I am weird. That is why I'm curious to hear about the experiences of other people. I also thought that other people may be interested in hearing the answers to the questions that I asked.

I really like the insights you shared on the last paragraph of your previous post. I never thought about it that way before but I agree with you.


I've told several women I dated as well as my wife and ex-wife.

I don't know exactly what you mean by "How did you tell her?"...  I guess it usually came up whenever we had some kind of discussion about what "kinks" each of us liked. Seems like every woman I ever dated for very long would eventually want to have that discussion, about "So.... What kind of things are your turn-ons?"

I'd say I usually got positive reactions. My ex-wife was really strong anyway, so she seemed happy to hear it. I dated a big, tall black gal one time who I just came out and told that I thought she'd look really good with some muscles on her. She replied that she'd thought about lifting weights before and trying to get some "guns", and agreed it would look good. In one case, the girl I was dating just found my interest in female muscle "interesting" but had no interest in trying to build any muscles herself. She just thought it was, like many fetishes out there, another odd one that she could see why some people liked but wasn't her thing.

In the case of my current wife, she started making an effort to work out, after finding out it was something I enjoyed. But she also had some health issues come up that forced her to put that on hold for a while. I don't think it's something that affected us in a negative way though. She's just a little bit disappointed she couldn't get the muscles she was originally shooting for. There are plenty of other reasons we're together though.... 

I think a guy is a lot more likely to get a negative reaction out of admitting this type of interest if he's not already in a real relationship that has some chemistry, though. Women are more likely to over-emphasize how "weird" and awkward they think it would make things if they don't know you too well yet, and you bring it up too quickly - like it's the main thing you look for in women.
knocker
Jan 15, 2017 - permalink
That's ground you have to tread lightly.  Imagine your girl has a big nose, she knows it, maybe she has learned to become comfortable with it, and all you do is point out other girls with long thin noses and tell her how much you love them like that.  She's not going to like that. 

Women like to imagine that they are the only one you are attracted to, they are your perfect girl, soul mate, all that kind of stuff.  Some are Ok with hearing your opinions of other women, some are not, some only pretend to be.

Raise the issue when you see one somewhere, don't just bring it up out of the blue,  ask her what she thinks of "that muscle girl over there."  It's going to be better if she starts the talking first.  Then she becomes part of the conversation, instead of just you just uncomfortably for the both of you, blabbering about your masturbation fantasies, if you know what I mean.

Don't go on endlessly about the other girl or female muscles.  Let her do most or much of the talking and move on to something else quickly unless she shows a real interest.  It shouldn't, and doesn't have to be, a 12 point dissertation on your theory about the aesthetics of muscle on the female body.   Keep it short and it will come off as a mere curiosity, just like you were curious about the girl with the pink mohawk that walked by a few moments earlier.  If she shows interest, then you can go a little deeper.       

           
adam_s
Apr 04, 2017 - permalink
That's ground you have to tread lightly.  Imagine your girl has a big nose, she knows it, maybe she has learned to become comfortable with it, and all you do is point out other girls with long thin noses and tell her how much you love them like that.  She's not going to like that. 

Women like to imagine that they are the only one you are attracted to, they are your perfect girl, soul mate, all that kind of stuff.  Some are Ok with hearing your opinions of other women, some are not, some only pretend to be.

Raise the issue when you see one somewhere, don't just bring it up out of the blue,  ask her what she thinks of "that muscle girl over there."  It's going to be better if she starts the talking first.  Then she becomes part of the conversation, instead of just you just uncomfortably for the both of you, blabbering about your masturbation fantasies, if you know what I mean.

Don't go on endlessly about the other girl or female muscles.  Let her do most or much of the talking and move on to something else quickly unless she shows a real interest.  It shouldn't, and doesn't have to be, a 12 point dissertation on your theory about the aesthetics of muscle on the female body.   Keep it short and it will come off as a mere curiosity, just like you were curious about the girl with the pink mohawk that walked by a few moments earlier.  If she shows interest, then you can go a little deeper.       

           

A lot of this post is pretty much dead accurate.

Or another way to look at it is simple cost/benefit - if you know the woman well enough, you know how she's gonna react, period. So make the choice wisely.
muscleman5
Apr 18, 2017 - permalink
I'm direct, so I just say something like: "Wow, you have a fantastic body!" and they all have responded positively. The only one I remember having an extended conversation with after I complimented her was on the beach with her gf, and we talked about bodybuilding.  Her friend looked nervous about me being a stranger, but the woman herself was fine with it. She did let me know she had a boyfriend, though. I've said things like, "you have incredible legs," or "nice biceps." That was when I was younger and perhaps more appealing -- I haven't done that in my advanced years, so I'm not sure it would go over so well now.
wihs2006
May 15, 2017 - permalink
First of all, I think muscular women are becoming more 'accepted' in society thanks to the popularity of bikini and figure/fitness models. I am a 29 year old guy and a considerable portion of the women I know regularly lift at least a few times a week.

My experience: a nice comment is always appreciated, one of my aforementioned female friends has had noticeable shoulder development so I complimented her and she brought me a beer. A simple "Oh your shoulders are looking built, I see those dumbbell shoulder presses are paying off". Keep things simple and polite, don't appear overly infatuated. Nothing scares women away from lifting more than super-creepy comments from guys.
joe camel
Jun 30, 2017 - permalink
You dont, just stay single and enjoy  your fetish Lol...
777now
Oct 16, 2017 - permalink
I told my wife I like muscle on girls, and she started working out.  that was 25 years ago. She quit since then, and I got caught looking at muscular woman online and it ticked her off, so now she don't work out at all.  Ce La Vie
badusername2000
Nov 03, 2017 - permalink
I had a bio on some ripoff tinder app that said i liked buff girls and chubby girls, my now girlfriend sees this and thinks "im both strong and chubby, I'm perfect for him" so she swipes me and we start talking, after about a month of me saying how hot she would be with more muscles she realized my muscle fetish rubbed off, so now shes trying to lose the weight and get as buff as possible, and she's made some decent progress.

So
1. I just told her outright that i liked buff girls
2. She was completely fine with it.
3. She started working out a lot and also gets turned on by the idea behind being buff too.

So my situation turned out very very well.
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