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I have some questions for those who told their wife, girlfriend, friend, or a woman you dated that you like muscles on a woman:
1) How did you tell her?
2) What was her reaction?
3) Were there any changes to her behavior afterwards (whether good or bad)?
I've told several women I dated as well as my wife and ex-wife.
I don't know exactly what you mean by "How did you tell her?"... I guess it usually came up whenever we had some kind of discussion about what "kinks" each of us liked. Seems like every woman I ever dated for very long would eventually want to have that discussion, about "So.... What kind of things are your turn-ons?"
I'd say I usually got positive reactions. My ex-wife was really strong anyway, so she seemed happy to hear it. I dated a big, tall black gal one time who I just came out and told that I thought she'd look really good with some muscles on her. She replied that she'd thought about lifting weights before and trying to get some "guns", and agreed it would look good. In one case, the girl I was dating just found my interest in female muscle "interesting" but had no interest in trying to build any muscles herself. She just thought it was, like many fetishes out there, another odd one that she could see why some people liked but wasn't her thing.
In the case of my current wife, she started making an effort to work out, after finding out it was something I enjoyed. But she also had some health issues come up that forced her to put that on hold for a while. I don't think it's something that affected us in a negative way though. She's just a little bit disappointed she couldn't get the muscles she was originally shooting for. There are plenty of other reasons we're together though....
I think a guy is a lot more likely to get a negative reaction out of admitting this type of interest if he's not already in a real relationship that has some chemistry, though. Women are more likely to over-emphasize how "weird" and awkward they think it would make things if they don't know you too well yet, and you bring it up too quickly - like it's the main thing you look for in women.
That's ground you have to tread lightly. Imagine your girl has a big nose, she knows it, maybe she has learned to become comfortable with it, and all you do is point out other girls with long thin noses and tell her how much you love them like that. She's not going to like that.
Women like to imagine that they are the only one you are attracted to, they are your perfect girl, soul mate, all that kind of stuff. Some are Ok with hearing your opinions of other women, some are not, some only pretend to be.
Raise the issue when you see one somewhere, don't just bring it up out of the blue, ask her what she thinks of "that muscle girl over there." It's going to be better if she starts the talking first. Then she becomes part of the conversation, instead of just you just uncomfortably for the both of you, blabbering about your masturbation fantasies, if you know what I mean.
Don't go on endlessly about the other girl or female muscles. Let her do most or much of the talking and move on to something else quickly unless she shows a real interest. It shouldn't, and doesn't have to be, a 12 point dissertation on your theory about the aesthetics of muscle on the female body. Keep it short and it will come off as a mere curiosity, just like you were curious about the girl with the pink mohawk that walked by a few moments earlier. If she shows interest, then you can go a little deeper.
1) How did you tell her?
2) What was her reaction?
3) Were there any changes to her behavior afterwards (whether good or bad)?